3 Principles that are used usually for anger management. The first one is
What is observed that in any situation our brain tends to produce to kind of responses.The first response is an instantaneous response or immediate response that comes from right side of the brain. why this response is instantaneous? its not a logical or rational response. This response come in the heat of the moment. On the other hand after sometime say after the gap of 15 to 20 min then another response comes from the left side of the mind of the brain and this one though delay it is a more rational response. when we use the principle of delay the response then what essentially we are trying to do is we are trying to replace right side response with the left side response. I will give you a real example to prove this point a couple of weeks back a patient mother and a son who had come back from US the son had a canabese problem the mother was very worried about him, couple of sessions were taken but he didn't improve so finally what is decided that it would be better for son if he goes and get admitted in a rehab center. The same evening mother messaged to the doctor where she asked that she wanted more information about rehab center. By reading this messages doctor got angry and started typing in anger but he didn't pushed the sent button he waited for 15 min then responded in a polite manner. he could have hurted to a mother who has came all the from US for her son.
More often then not we know when we are walking into a situation of conflict. we know that this is the time we are likely to loose our temper when we are likely to get into a fight so if you are able to anticipate it, avoid it. Im case you are not able to avoid it you can always rehearse your response, you can speak on your own mind what words you are going to use and how you are going to stand out of the situation often it is seen that people dont get agree by what you say but by the way you say it. so by rehearsal you are able to use your word very wisely.
In couples we see that they fight, they try to difuse the fight and then they try to go back to normalcy and again they fight after 15 to 20 days on the same issue. Now this is very important that once the conflict is over. you must sit down calmly and discuss the issue and find the solution to the problem when you are in calm state of your mind.
