Most of the Indian married couples predominantly believed in co dependence in few previous decades. But that does not say that it is not followed in current days.

Actually most of the marital relationships last in country like us because of this codependence.

In Co dependence one of the partner becomes too much caring about the others, so much so that  they become the one person who take care of all other persons emotions in the family.

Mostly the ladies were seen to be so much giving in the previous decades but now the things have changed. Today Men also follow co dependence and sometimes these people badly fall into the trap of complexity in the relationship.

This becomes tiring from the person giving most of the effort.

Relationship should be maintained in such a way that the responsibilities would be balanced among the partners and also their emotional feelings should be shared equally. Neither of them is expected to become too much giving or too much dominating.

If codependence shows its negative side in a vast way then the couples  can never discuss this issues with anyone. But we don't want to be dependent on anyone…right?

Sometimes for financial or emotional support we need to depend on our husbands or wives…but that should not make me so vulnerable that I become a victim. 

What I mean to say  is that, if I as a wife depend on my husband for financial support then he is also depending on me for mental support. So we are equally important in each others lives. We are dependent on each other for fulfilling different needs? SO WHY TO TAKE THE BAGGAGE OF IT?

We do not want to give so much that nothing is left with us, neither we want to be selfish….This balancing game is what matters in a conjugal relationship. The more you learn to balance  and understand your and your partners needs the more you can evaluate, how much you wanna give into the relationship and how much you wanna take from the relationship. 

So co-dependence has to be elevated to that level that both the partners become comfortable at their own position. They should not feel tired being the wife of somebody or being the husband of somebody.

And the best way to achieve this is to  observe the needs and wants of the partners which both needs to observe and give time and nourishment to the relationship.