"Are you really sad, if there's no tears in your eyes. 

Are you really happy, if there's no smile on your face. 

Are you really wounded, if there's no injury on your body. 

Are you really loved, if there's no kisses on your lips. 

Are you REALLY ‘real’, if there's nothing fake about you??"  

~Me

When a friend of mine bags a scholarship I was also aiming for, I feel jealous. But I convince myself that I'm not jealous, that I'm happy for him, that I want to be happy for him, that I should be happy for him. I lock that jealously, ignore it and let it grow until it consumes me. I start feeling resentment towards my friend. I start ignoring my other successes, burdening myself with one failure. This jealousy and resentment and ignorance; the weight of these unwanted feelings pile on until I break. 

But isn't jealousy something we all feel? Then why do we deny ourselves from feeling these emotion. Likewise when we are sad or angry or irritated, we stop ourselves from being sad or angry or irritated for the sake of others and put on a smile. We often constrain ourselves from feeling things. 

And maybe they're negative and unwanted emotions but isn't it better to relieve ourselves from these emotions rather than letting it pile on. Isn't it better to feel, evolve and move past it? 

And what's stopping you from feeling these emotions? Are you afraid what your friends will say if you tell them you feel jealous? Isn't it possible to feel jealous of your friend and feel happy for him at the same time? Are you afraid what your family will say if you tell them that you feel sad when they ignore your dreams and opinions and choices? Are you afraid what your partner will say if you tell them that you feel angry when they doubt you or restrict you? Are you afraid what your relatives will say if you tell them that you feel irritated when they meddle in your life? And it's okay if you are afraid, but why must you let others dictate the way you feel?

Don't let your family or friends or any a superficial being like me tell you how you should feel. And mind you, I am not telling you how to feel, I'm asking you to let yourself feel all the emotions you come across. Because my friend, there's no right way to feel. YOU DO YOU. That's what makes us more real, more human.