We all been once at a place where we begin to pretend, what  we are not , and try to live up to expectations how other people wants to see us. But is it the way you also want yourself to become ? .. just to make other people happy sometimes you forget what you want. Do you like what you do ? do you like your partner ? are you happy?  you may answer yes to these questions but is it what you believe deep down ?

Most of us go through life pretending rather than living. We find it easier to tell ourselves that we feel good about something or someone than to admit we don't. By convincing ourselves we're happy when we are not , we avoid difficult decisions that would be necessary to change our current situation. If we pretend everything is fine just because of the fear , risks and potential disapproval of our friends , loves ones.

“If you want to be happy , don't do something you don't like. Don't say something you don't mean. pretending and lying to yourself will only breed unhappiness.”- Michael lee

We don't have to feel afraid about what we feel if the other one really cares about you he/she will understand .we don't have t deny for help when we need it , we don't have to tell our partner we love them if we don't. Because when we pretend all these things it will automatically start hurting us deep down. All you need to start is to be you , tell your opinions  , your feelings , make your decisions , lean into uncomfortable tasks which will help to overcome a fear of suffering. whether is your job decision , relationship if you want to be in , express it and try do to what you want how much it may be difficult. 

 I sometimes pretend that i am okay but okay is not being happy , therefore i also try every time to express what i feel what i want because i know it is necessary , the other person will accept the way i am if they want to.

Therefore try to be yourself , it can be scary and challenging or can give feeling of insecurity. It is ok to feel this way. It is a process and once you will overcome all these phases you'll cherish this process and feel confident about yourself.  

Love yourself enough to free yourself!