I know you must be heartbroken.
You would be meeting a lot of people who come to console you & your family. Some would sympathize with you. Some would come to see you & take care of you in silence.
But not everyone would make you feel nice.
Some close ones didn’t care even when expected, Some would care even when not expected.
You feel your family crumbling, but remember it is not the end.
You would be learning different aspects of life.
Yes, it's true. Like it or not, we are in a sort of queue. We don’t know how much time we have, so better make the best of it. Here in the hue and cry of the world, we forget this fact. We tend to take people for granted.
Life is too short to complain. Better to not hold grudges(or complaints or hate) against anyone. Better to forgive those who hurt you, even if they haven’t feel sorry for their actions. Let them be. Try not to be disturbed or take anything by your heart.
Yes! you need to be strong yourself first then take care of your family.
Maybe you got your younger siblings or disturbed another parent who had just lost his /her partner. The way it was emotionally vulnerable for you, the same way it may be vulnerable for them too.
Better cry out your sorrows. It is ok if you don’t want to feel weak in front of your siblings or other relatives. Cry out in silence. Cry out in the bathroom. Cry out in your bed. But do vent your emotions.
It is no good to bottle up your emotions. If want to share the moments with your close friends, then do. But finally, you need to understand, you need to take care of yourself. Yes, It is a fact! You need to accept.
We will be facing different situations, now and then. It's up to us, how to respond to them. Better to make it good for others and yourselves. Don’t worry. Don't push yourself into any bad practices of alcohol, etc to forget your pain of loss. It will worsen the situation.
Compassion is a special virtue that everyone must have in their life. You never know what other person going through, so be kind towards everyone, Specially towards those who are angry or sad. Love is the answer to all hatred.
This time will also pass. Losing is difficult for us. But to cherish their memories is the way to celebrate our love towards our loved ones. More we sail ahead, more will reach other shores. It is their memories who will make us soar through hardships. You will surely get your way.
All the best, Strong Soul.
From Your Well-Wisher,
The one who had faced the same situation 7 years ago
I never believed this quote until I lived through it. It is true. By no means, I would forget the memories of my father! I cherish them happily. He loved educating people. I started teaching underprivileged kids. Did donations to NGOs. This way, we remember him, celebrate & cherish him. On his birthdays & death anniversary, we (our family) honor him by distributing free study kits to children & much more.
