Hello wonderful people! I know I haven’t posted a blog since long. Actually my exams were going on and I was a little busy but to make it up for that here I am presenting you a small blog series for new couples and people who want to get in a relationship. In this series I will be presenting my view and some tips and tricks on how to make your relationship more strong and how to avoid some basics no’s in a relationship. So without wasting let’s hop into today’s topic.

Recently I have seen people, newly in relationships posting pictures of their partners on Instagram followed by a millennial slang or even pictures of them on a date or something like that. This is really a nice gesture of showing how much you appreciate each other IF you post once or twice in a week or month but posting it regularly every now and then will rather have a bad effect on both your relationship and your social life. By putting it in a simple view basically your love and appreciation towards each other will slowly turn to likes and in worst case a competition between either you and your partner or other couple. The actual love and bond will turn to a rather mere social tool for your social account. This can have an instant effect or a worse scene in future.

Second thing, I have seen besides social accounts is bragging it to your friends or your close one. The young generation mostly of the age between 15-20 have made being in a relationship a status of superiority and those young minds fall for this status trap and in time they would always talk about proposing her or proposing him. Just a sensible thing, you are there with your friends to enjoy go to a mall or play some sport or talk/ gossip about ‘padoos wali aunty’ you do not have to compete to each other that your partner did this or your partner did that. Coming back to the topic this young generation has created a kind of mess that if you aren’t in a relationship you are inferior or ugly which is not true and this again creates a misconception among parents that being in a relationship is bad or rather let’s say arrange marriage is better.

The solution for it is simple, do not try hard to impress each other every now and then. the correct partner do not want you to be the best boyfriend/girlfriend  in his/her group but rather a person who he/she can enjoy talking like no one else. I think this is the main  line between toxic relationship and just relationship. Also there are points where we try to impress each other and that are perfectly fine .like for example: my girlfriend’s birthday is coming and I surprised her with let’s say giving her a watch. this is love but if, to prove I am a better boyfriend gift her watch and other expensive things everyday and tell her to put it on instagram then this can be called as a wrong relationship .

Some of my tips to avoid this is

1) Talk with each other rather than putting a story when you are together

2) You do not have to bring the topic of relationships in every topic with your frinds

3) When on date use phone only when important,you are there to know each other well not tell others you are with your partners

4) Do not EXPECT things from your partners

5) Do not try to make the relationship controlled by either your partner or your social account

So here I was guys the first blog of this series.if you like it please drop a like and comment .Thank you