I m feeling this urgency to do something, to make that change happen I am looking for. I am going to create my own destiny. I m going to love myself even in times I feel incapable, when other make me feel unlovable I am gonna love myself. I am choosing me for now, untill I know how to create healthy boundaries.

That time you get after you breakup with somone is vital for you so that you don't repeat the same mistakes with the next person who come into your life, so that you don't mess it up. Learn from the mistakes you made and lessons you learned from your previous partner. Don't use your breakup to treat others with disrespect. If you are not ready be honest about it. Be as clear as you would want other person to be with you if you were in same spot as they are. Just because you are hurting doesn't mean you should hurt others in process. Learn to heal without damaging others in the process. Because if you don't you are no better. Don't become the reasons you walked from in the first place. 

Show the kindness you want for yourself, You can become iconic by being kind, warm and strong version of yourself. A sayings as 

      “Just because you are soft doesn't mean you are not a force. Honey and wildfire are both gold colour” - Victoria Erikson.

I know it can be hard to see good in people when you are wronged but kindness should not be lacking. If you can't do any good for someone atleast don't become the reason of their misery. We all see part of ourselves in others that we like or not love yourself and love others but don't let others to walk all over you either. Create that healthy boundary because it boundaries makes sense. Respect your boundaries and respect theirs. Life is hard and complicated as it as don't make more mess while you have the power to do the right thing.

I think that is how you change the awful reality to alluring fantasy by believing that there are people out there who are as kind as you are. I love the idea of world in which kindness, trust and love are valued

It all sums up to that “Don't do something that you wouldn't want to be done to you.”