Speaking of harsh reality of a society there are many things which undergoes as a bitter truth which sometimes are not true but a culture or tradition which have come a way long its way into our life that can not be changed or does not make much more impact into our life but does exist.

 Speaking of that ARRANGE MARRIAGE comes in my mind. Why? Question is why arrange marriage is a problem? Arrange marriage is not a problem, the problem is THE BEAUTY TEST which a girl has to go through in an arrange marriage which comes in handy. Why a girl has to be perfect in order to not get rejected from one of the boys's family or to marry a guy which in fact himself is not perfect. Why a girl has to go through many questions like: she is too skinny, or too fat or too dark or too short and so on. I mean why? Why this hypocrisy when the guy himself is not so perfect? And I'm not judging here anyone but why this biasedness ? And the question is until when? This has been story of almost every girl who can not share her story, can not say anything to her family, and height of the story is no one even care. But no one can realize what a girl go through when being judged by her appearance, color, shape, size etc. and the effect of these on her confidence and self esteem. 

I have seen this ad\campaign of dove and the topic was the beauty test which has given me the idea to write on it which was very moving and I was happy that someone out there is saying something about this for a change. It tells the story of girls who has to go through perfection scale in order to be part of this ridiculous societal flaw which are height, complexion, fat , curly hair, mark on the face and many more which is not even being consider . This is sad but true and the story of the girls out there being judged, marked on their appearances. 

I want to add one more thing to this that when I was reading one of the comments of this campaign  on You Tube one person had said about girls being judged by women herself. And this I too believe and this is happening that there are women more than men who judge, pass comments and rejects girls by saying all these brutal things being unaware of the impact they are leaving on the girls and their self esteem

There are many girls who think am I not good enough? Am I too fat, too short, too dark, too skinny? When a girl is being judged she starts to question herself as to what is wrong? Am i not good enough? Am I not worth living in this society? Am I not compatible enough to get a life partner and so on which is totally wrong. Every girl and every single person in this world is beautiful enough and need no assurance from anyone whether she is perfect or not. 

Now there are 163 million women in the world and I choose to be the one who raise her voice thinking it can make impact on any of the girl out there so that she can think that she is not alone in the world and if she can speak for it she only can not change HER LIFE but others also. Now its high time a girl should stand for her sake and to raise a voice against it.

I just want to tell each of the girl that you are beautiful in every possible way, you have got a great skin, great body , great mind , so you go girl and tell the world they need to stop judging you and tell them that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL with all the flaws. 

 But before telling them you need to tell yourself that and you need to love yourself first.

And lastly I want to ask the readers whether they agree with me or not that this needs to change in our society for the sake of the girls and for the better life