The concept of arranged marriage in India is weird and irrational. If we give it a thought, it's about a family meeting some other family, who they know via some app or mutual connections, and they sit together and count their children's flaws. What's super weird is that society has normalized this. 

Parents want a good life for their children, and they think that arranged marriage is the best way to achieve this. Their intention is not wrong but the concept is too outdated for this generation. The boy's family looks for a girl who can take care of their fully grown son, the family, in other words, want a nanny for their son. The girl's family on the other hand wants a man who earns well and has a good reputation in society. They want lifetime insurance for their daughter.

But is it correct? An arrangement between two families. 

Marriage can never be an arrangement. Marriage should always be because of love and love can never grow out of an arrangement. The couple will come to adjust and respect each other in a few years, but love? maybe. maybe not.

Here, I am not trying to say that all love marriages fail. They succeed, most of them do.  But that's because they learn to adjust and compromise. The only thing I am asking here is to give them free will. It's a matter of their whole life. Let them leave on their own terms. 

The older generation doesn't understand that no one would show their true self in a few meetings. They will always pretend to be something they are not. You need to spend time with them to really know them. But is it possible in an arranged marriage? Hardly. Some couples aren't even allowed to meet each other before marriage. How are they supposed to spend their life together?

I am not against arranged marriage. If someone is comfortable doing so, they should go for it. But they should be given free will and not forced to marry someone whom they don't know, or don't like. It's the mantra to a healthy marriage. Compromise shouldn't always be the solution. 

A small note for anyone who believes in an arranged marriage: Don't force yourself or your children into this. Try to listen to them. Always do what's best for you or them. Learn to live life on your own terms.