I am sure everyone of us has experienced a stressful uncertain wait for something or other in their lifetime. It could be for the exam or the result or job or some important event in life like marriage, child birth or even divorce! The list of uncertain things is infinite as life itself is agglomeration of all ambiguous things! However, our mind is never ready to accept the unpredictability of anything for which we are trying so hard to get fulfilled.

This journey is not going to stop till we die, still, we keep on assuring ourselves that “I will be happy and my stress will end, if I achieve this”. Sometimes we add a tag to it like “this is the last thing I want to happen and I will be satisfied forever”.

  The trek to attain that ‘happy state’, gets fueled with hard work and strong will power. Few amongst us are lucky to arrive at that locus or secure the goal as planned only to know that this state is just transient and will soon be gone in flash. We have been hearing since ages that uncertainty is the only certain thing in life, still we rely, so much on on our unconscious stubborn self that we fix ideas about the outcome in our minds from the beginning itself. This uncertainty makes the journey more stressful. The lucky ones who are able to attain the said goal will realize that they could have achieved this anyway whether they enjoyed putting all efforts or not. The path could have been travelled with a small face or a frowned one! Let me explain it in a simpler way.

Two moths back, I was travelling to Ireland to be with my third grand daughter. The whole process of visa application, long wait for visa approval and finally multiple flight travel with covid norms.. everything was so stressful that when I reached Ireland. I was physically and mentally exhausted to the core. relaxing in the backyard with a little granddaughter in my lap, I thought, could I enjoyed this stressful journey anyway? is it possible to adopt English novelist, Margaret Dabble's words, 'when nothing is sure, everything is possible? Yes, it is possible not to let the stress overpower us, it is possible to remain calm and enjoy the things happening around though they are mostly frustrating or happen against our wish!

We enjoy when we are happy and we feel happy when we enjoy, however, enjoyment and happiness are two different states of mind. Like the words pleasure and contentment! So, a person can enjoy and get pleasure and doing certain things and still not be happy or contented! Though the converse is always true that whenever we are happy, we enjoy. 

Sadist person enjoys pain while doing things that give him pleasure but ‘happiness’ is now here around him. Another major difference between the two is that of sustainability! State of enjoyment is mostly momentary, short lived while happiness can last long and few enlightened once can remain in that state forever!

Obviously, it is not possible to enjoy the stress, however, it is very much possible to remain composed and cool in upsetting or annoying situations. As soon as we reached India after a long journey, our minds were already crippled with jet lag and bodies were worn out with continuous facemask and PPE gown, we were welcome by atrocious covid norms at Delhi airport. ‘Just chill’ said the mind to the body and we could feel the warmth of our own country!.

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