Some of you might think what topic is this …'Hoe to talk to someone you trust".

it's simple you just speak out…

It's not that simple at the end of the day most difficult part is to talk to someone we trust.

When I say talk it means how to share something very personal, traumatic or heartbreaking.

Before we understand how to talk to let's know who are these people we trust.

We all have an inner circle of people we trust and can reach out to. They form our support system.

People we trust are ones we can open up and share most of the things about our lives. They are someone we know will keep all our secrets, look out for us and we can depend upon them.

These people we trust can be our parents, sibling, best friend, a teacher, a cousin or a significant other.

Who we can reach out and share our thoughts and feelings with to gain advice, insight or reflect.

So once we are clear about who are these people we trust we come back to our topic….

“HOW TO TALK”

There are five steps to talking to someone we trust.lets understand them and I hope it will help you become better communicators.

First step is to decide who to talk to.its important to decide who to talk to in your circle of close people, so that you get the help you need from the correct person.

Second step is to workout what to say. At times when we talk about our feelings and thoughts we overlap and overload the information.so it is always better when you want to talk about something very personal and sensitive always workout what is bothering you. For better clarity you can write it down and narrow down to exactly what is troubling you.

Third step is to choose the right time to Talk. It is important to have a time when you can have their undivided attention. So that they can help you and understand what you are sharing. It does not have to be face to face …it can be over the phone, a video chat but select a time when they can pay that full attention.

Fourth step is to have the conversation. When talking about tough topic or sensitive issue it is the important that you are specific and to the point so that the person knows you want help, advice, practical support or just someone to listen.

When having this conversation use ‘I’ statements and short direct sentences. 

For example: try saying

“I am bullied at workplace by a colleague, need your advice on how to handle this. ”

Fifth and final step is do not give up on yourself if you are not able to talk once try again. Also keep talking and trying till the time you get help, advice and support you are looking for. It can appear to be tedious and daunting task to do but remember it's not impossible.

Because unless you talk and Reachout you won't understand help is available and it's ok to seek support and help.

Next time you have something serious on your mind remember these steps and Reachout to some you trust.