Hey folks! Happy morning! Hope you are all safe at home. 

SO, Today I am gonna talk about something that I have learnt in life from my husband. TO BE COOL always. Okay! I got it, always is not possible so say, mostly. I must tell you that I have not met anyone in my life like him who handles everything very cool. Whenever I jump and get anxious about something, he used to say, “Pathukalam vidu” (let's deal with it. leave it")He used to be calm and composed 98% of the time and only lose his temper at me (lol). When I asked him the reason, he said that he ignores others' opinions. He said that the scoldings from others, criticism from others don't really bother him nor hurt him. However, if someone who is very close to his heart gets hurt or scolds him, it affects him hence he feels the pain inside or vent out the anger at them. SO, I am very special indeed!

Whatever stress he has at work he never shows it at home, to me. And he never shouted back at me when I did it him. Such a lovely guy is it! : ) Any girl would definitely don't wanna miss this type of a guy. and I am lucky to get one. 

Not only that, he handles every problems casually, keeping cool. On the other hand, I jump in hot energy. I am  a short tempered person, the exact opposite to my hubby. This post is not to boast about him but I wanna share the things that I have been learning from him. 

He always says, if we keep on mourning about yesterday, we won't live the present. We can't get away with our past alone, we need someone or something to hold us up, to bring us above the water where we are drowning. He did that precisely to me. I was lost in my past relationship, mourning every single day, thinking about everything that we had planned or desired to come true. But, when my hubby came (at the right time) and told me that he shall take care of me no matter what, I was baffled and was not ready to give up on my past. I clung to it so tightly without realising it is drowning me deep inside the ocean. But, my husband came to pull me over not only from the ocean but also he pulled out the hidden love I had for him out. 

Only then I realised that I have been after something which is not worthy or not meant to me. I was searching for the diamond which I had it in my palm for years after years. Now I feel much grateful for him.  I have been learning so much from him lately. 

So guys, as my first post went, everything happens for a reason, here is my third post saying that we must not waste out tears about yesterday, we need to move on. Look forward. We shall not gain anything crying over the spilt milk. We have a life to live. ONE life to live so let us enjoy every moment in it. We may not know when is our last day in this Earth. So, let's decide not to mourn about the past, and start enjoying the moment. Tension or aggression makes everything worse. Let's be cool. Next time when you get angry try to keep quiet. I know that is really really difficult but try it for once. Keep your mouth zipped when you get angry and think something positively. 

If your mom or husband scolds at you, keep quiet and think of the nice or romantic moment you had with him/her. Smile inside and be silent. The trick here is, when someone is angry, no amount of good advice or justification gets inside his/her upstairs. Only when they are calm, their mind shall be ready to accept things. So, even if you are right yet getting scoldings, WAIT! wait in silence, and when the storm settles you can put down your points calmly. So that it reaches the other end smoothly without offending (and at the same time making them regret. : )) 

I hope this helps you. I am trying this trick and you can also do it and share your experience in the comment section. Don't worry about anything. LIFE HAS TO GO ON ANYWAY!!!!