The world works on the "Concept of resistance".

“The plant can only grow upwards facing the sun only when it has the capability to build resistance against the gravity of the earth. In the same way, until we develop such quality of resistance against discouragement we can't grow towards our goal”.

 How can we be strong in opposing discouragements? What are the guidelines to build such resistance?

Before telling you the tips to build resistance, let me introduce you to types of discouragement. Discouragements are made by two types of people in our lives:

1. Discouragement with positive intention {Discouragements made for our own growth}.
2. Discouragement with negative intention {Discouragements that let us down to our knees}.

1. The first one is mostly made by our family (mom, dad, grandparents, and siblings but not other family members) and close friends. They do this only after explaining to us in their kind encouraging nature. They discourage us so that we break that lazy shield around and work on something really useful. It's a psychology method that is applied to freaks who don't appreciate the encouragement given by them priorly. This kind of discouragement gives us that slap on our face when we don't explore our strengths.

2.The latter one is done by every idiot we see in our lives daily. Every possible thing is discouraged by them, right from the physical plane to the emotional plane. They feel that they are government employees and paid for doing so. 

They talk sh*t like:

• You are looking so fat and bubbly, you need to work out.
• You look too skinny, you need to eat more.
• I dance better than you.
• Why are you in such a creative field, it doesn't give you bread and butter.
• You need to focus on your dressing sense.
• You don't seem serious about life.
• You got less marks than me, you are not intelligent enough.
• You are not genius enough to crack this competitive exam.
• You have to plan your future as my son does, you don't seem to succeed in life.
• You can't do this, You can't do that. bla, bla, bla, bla………….

This kind of stuff will make us feel bad about ourselves. They just let us down and make us stop to explore new stuff.

TIPS TO BUILD RESISTANCE TO SUCH DISCOURAGEMENT:

Let me tell you one thing first, these people who discourage us to let us down are suffering from their own insecurities and try to make the one beside them feel bad so that they can feel better. They are dealing with their own mental illness and I just feel so sorry for their upbringing.

*Coming to the tips:

1.IGNORE:  

• You can tell me that, “I KNOW THAT I SHOULD IGNORE THEM BUT JUST DON'T KNOW HOW”. It's all about the mental game. As I told you priorly make this firm in your mind that they are dealing with a mental illness. This makes you just sympathize with them and just wish for their soon recovery. Thinking this all in your mind just smile at them and cut off the thought of their discouraging words.
• If their words are still bothering you but you are not allowed to talk back, as they are so-called elders of the society, just swear them in your diary or bring a photo of them and scribble it until you feel better. Trust me this scribbling method will make you feel so better.

2. SUCCEED AND SHOW THEM: 

      Such people shut their mouths only when you succeed in the thing that they told you you can't. Though they don't deserve to be shown, just do it for yourself. Keep your calm and do the stuff you should do and success comes along the way.

3. SETTLES DOWN BY TIME:

       After following the first two tips just leave it to the time, it will take care of everyone and everything. As time passes by, you will not feel much affected as you are in the process of building up your immunity.

*CONCLUSION:

One day when you feel nothing about these comments is the day that you have gained resistance. The sense of freedom that you achieve that day is like heaven. Problems are given only to those who can handle them.

Keep in mind that “Resistance makes you realize your actual strength”.

Unless you are thrown into darkness you will never appreciate the value of light, the same way unless you get discouraged you will never appreciate the kind words.

Even the microbes get resistant to antibiotics, we humans also can develop resistance to discouragement. So my dear champs do the best you can do, this stuff should doesn't actually affect your growth. Keep smiling and spread kindness.

ALWAYS REMEMBER: "YOU ARE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF".