Friendship is the best relationship you will ever have. I personally believe that every relationship should be built with friendship as its basement. Companionship is necessary to make all relationships work.
Every one of us might have at least one bad relationship, be it with our relatives, colleagues, family or spouse, in which we have messed up. But, what is the reason for this abrupt turn of events?
As we grow up, we realise so many things, some good things turn bad and some bad things turn out to be really good. This is not because any of us changed but life is taking us to our destiny slowly and gradually. We meet people, we enjoy their company, stay a short term together and then everything fades into smoke.
In modern times, we tend to relate or define all of our relationships to fulfil our needs or we make friends with those people who could serve us a definite purpose. Once this purpose is over we find it difficult to hold on to the person. We are lacking the compassion and the bond to hold on to a longer period of time. We find it extremely difficult to concentrate on the people who come into our lives, let alone hold on to them.
I have a childhood friend who I still call and talk to for hours. We don't see each other often, but when we do it is always fun. We have parted ways a long time ago, she had her career dreams so do I, but we knew that our paths lay intertwined. Over time, many people came into my life, some stayed some walked away, but she has always remained my constant. Every time she calls me, I wonder how we put up with each other for such a long time. The simple answer is we both loved each other without demands, expectations and never tied our friendship with any benefits we would get from the relationship. We met as children, and became besties as children, we grew up but the bond never changed.
Coming back to the point, in a world where relationships have become another way of feeding our desires on the expense of others feelings, a pure and unconditional friendship will change the whole perspective of social commitments. Friendship is the basic and the very first step to have a long term cordial relationship with anyone, be it your parents, siblings, classmates, lover, husband or inlaws. Let friendship be the first thing that bind you.
Learn to give without expectations, learn to accept without judgements and learn to love without conditions. Make friends with everyone in your life. Rather than making a friend when you need something to get done, make friends everywhere you go. Make a bonding with that will last, and you will find many helping hands when you are in trouble. We are all hungry for a loyal relationship, if you can make one, you get one.
When you stay without reason, they will give you a million reasons to stay. That is the key. Don't point the finger and tell them to do this, instead do it yourself. Let us all be the change.
Ganga Ambily Gopi
