You can learn many things from your teen. How much patience you have for instance said Franklin p jones.
Teen parent:" the desire to keep them small and dependent, makes us bad parents. Why do kids don't understand us??"
Teen kid:" the cherubic appearance of childhood is gone. We are looking at strangers in mirror, with gawky facial features,hair,acnes, eyes with dark circles trying to understand what I am. Why don't parents understand us?"
So, yes teen parenting is really a very tough job. Sometimes the parent may even loose control and their poise. The base to problems between a parent and their teen kid is the generation gap leading to misunderstandings.
Teen problems:-
1) change is the only constant:
The physical changes occur in the early teens and the emotional changes occur in the late teens, which give rise to variety of social and emotional problems. This process of maturation and newly set hormones have serious effect not only on body but also on brain changing the moods and idealogies towards life.
Parent's reaction: when a teen says ' mom, knock the door before you enter'. Her first question is 'what are you hiding is it drugs, social media?'. They are never ready to accept the change in their children.
2) Body image:
There is a big problem the teen may face-body shaming. They are in a state of conflict with their own mind-reader or zero size. Instead of loving their hearts, they wish to be loved for their chick bodies and has become a growing trend. And teens are pushed to follow the trend.
Parent's reaction: Our parents are way too old to understand the trend. When we say "zero size" they say "skinny, unhealthy". They never accept their teens gyming.
3) stress:
Most of the teens are students who try to become independent in their later teens. Some even are ready to step out of house into the world. Stress is in alarming proportions to today's teens. They need to balance their academic as well as their social lives with Grace. There is a immense responsibility posted on them to keep up their family names held high. Apart from peer pressure, their personal relationship too become hard to handle on their own adding to the stress quotient.
Parent's reaction: parents believe that the concept of "teen stress" itself as a myth. They think that their children until, under their roof, are happy and stress-free and fail to recognize the stress behind their children.
4) cyber usage:
The internet has a pool of information in which sometimes the kids get drowned. The internet does provide with a wide range of socialisation and information but also leads to so much of cyber crimes and the teen being their easy prey. The Cyber usage of teens have been on a great increase after the introduction of the messaging apps leading to take relationships too.
Parent's reaction: this is the major area of misunderstanding. Parents are very scared to let their kids on their own in using internet and are scared of cyber addiction that they restrict their child from using phones or computers.
5) sexualization:
Cultural changes are pushing teens to be viewed in a sexual manner, dangerous to the health of the society. This kind of sexualization at a very early age have a lasting impact on their sense of self worth. Some teens sexualize their own self but some bully others for the nature
Of other's body. This kind of activity lowers one's self-esteem to a great extent.
Parent's reaction: it would be a nightmare for a parent to know that their child is sexualized. It's high time they understand that their children live in a cruel world.
One in four teens will have a depression illness by age of 18. Getting on to it, and dealing it the right way is the responsibility of the parent. Parents need to recognize the changing culture and trend, and need to guide their children accordingly in a way that they do not miss any new updates nor they land up in any trouble.
" There are thousands of voices in the ears of our children and our challenge, as a parent is to make sure that theirs is the loudest!".
