We celebrate the world as one community.And we are obliged or you can say it's important too to have a social life if you wana grow mentally in your lives.But the most important thing here which we often forget is “acceptance” either by your family or your surrounding.Children are forced by parents to have a social life,have friends to play with which is eventually important for their growth but little do they know that their kid may be being bullied by some people which he is afraid to tell you.
Bullying happens everywhere and sometimes both the victim and the bully don't even know that there is a term for what is happening.It all starts as an element of fun but soon it loses it sanctity and starts affecting the child or even the adult mentally.
Being bullied at the young age imposes a more menbta trauma than in a older age because you don't have lot of people to share what you are going through and the saddest part is that even you don't know what you are growing through.People don't trust you, don't take you seriously and from there everything goes wrong.We suffer bullying in silence because we are afraid that if we raised voice we might get more in trouble.So we suffer in silence.
l would like to share a story or it would be right to say a personal story.Yes,i have been bullied and all the thoughts written above are totally my feelings.At that age i don't even know that i am being bullied.Well,i was not too young but also not too aware.Its about my high school days.I was a brilliant student and recently i changed my school.The new school was very good in infrastructure and everything and i had my few old friends there too.I joined,focused on whatever i was asked to perform and achieved everything par excellence.And soon i was appointed the Head Girl of the school.This was the starting of my humiliating days.Teachers were impressed by me but students or you can say my classmates hated me.Because i got the position for which they were struggling.But that was not my fault.Even i had to struggle more to fit in that puzzle and show my talent wherever i could.After that,they started naming me, especially the girls.There were rumours about my character in the whole school,nobody supported me in the class,if i give a wrong answer the whole class make fun of me,even few teachers supported them and this all started affecting me slowly.
One incident i totally remember was,I came back from my guarding duty after lunch break and I found my school bag missing.Teacher was there teaching and i was asked to open my book,but i couldn't find my bag.Offcourse,they hid it.I was going bench to bench if someone has it or have hidden it out of fun please give me back but all i received was mocking.20 mins passed and i kept searching it in the whole class and was deeply humiliated.Yeah,it is not as funny as it sounds.It is devastating when 63 students are laughing on you and your condition.It tore apart my confidence.But i stood back again, fortunately there was cctv in our whole campus.So i gathered all the courage and went in front and asked to return my bag or i'll be complaining to M.D.(which would have made my life worse)but this worked.One guy from the last,stood and gave my bag back to me.I went back to my seat after all this but could not talk to anyone.This affected me so deeply,and many more incidents after that like my notebooks were taken and never returned back,school benches had vulgar pics with my name on it,being called a witch and a lot more.Each day was getting hard for me.I come home and tell my mother that I don't like school and my classmates but couldn't gather the reason to tell what happens with me daily.But i still finished my school life from that school only.I was too young to understand the laws or anything.But i knew i can't leave the battle.It will give me strength and it has.No,I am 24 years old and i am never afraid of someone bullying me.I learnt from my experience and have evolved as a person.I have tried to be more compassionate and understanding towards people and their problems.I try to understand every situation in my life and that too with extreme patience.These incidents have provided me tremendous strength but i won't say they were good.And i still regret sometimes that i should have stood against them n number of times.But it's never too late for anything.I take stand now for a lot of people who faces this in college,and job,and even in the friend circle.And it gives me happiness to do something for them.
In those days i always end up thinking that i won't have a lot of friends in my life.But i am blessed to tell you all that i have amazing people in my life who love me and support me throughout my life.But those days still haunt me and i would want that it doesn't happen with anyone.
So i would like to tell you all that there is no seperate anti bullying laws in India which definitely should be there but there are anti ragging laws and we should know and be aware about them so that we can help ourselves and others in need.
Basically everything in life is a lesson and what i learnt is experiences teaches you best.So try being humble and polite and bold where required.
