As you all saw the cover photo you all are also expecting something 😉.

So yeah the topic is expectations which is also a unrealistic optimism.To be optimistic is good but building an unrealistic optimism is also a root of our mostly problems.

And in this modernization it plays a very important role both mentally and emotionally. Well mentally and emotionally both are different as mentally sometimes we are strong but not so strong as emotionally.  Because of unrealistic optimism Emotionally we become unstable which also affects our mental and physical health.

We believe that through optimism we can make our beliefs or thoughts to happen in real. Optimism can make us happy too in some ways but when our optimism becomes unrealistic and unreasonable it's becomes cause of negative emotions, overthinking and also a root of resentment in some or other way.If we believe that my thoughts or beliefs will bring me what we want than we are wrong cause this magical or unrealistic thoughts brings a big wave of disappointment which we are not very capable to handle it.

Some people shows that they don't have expectations but as a normal human being we all have a tendency to expect some unrealistic things even if we try to not hope or expect ,we do that without knowing.

Expectations and hope are good when we expect things to happen with ourselves without involving other people. When we have worked hard for  achieving something it's natural we expect it to happen. But when that doesn't happen we become angry, resentful and upset.And this also makes resent other people around people around us.

When our expectations involves other people around us then it's becomes unreasonable. Our expectations also make us feel resentful towards the people around us for not living up to our expectations. When we expect things without actually verbalizing it. It becomes irrational and unreasonable for us and other people around us.

In nowadays, relationships and friendship breaks easily and most of the time the reasons are unrealistic expectations which are unspoken by the people. Communicating openly about what we expect in relationships, friendship or any other relations makes less disappointment and can also improve understanding of each other’s perspective. Also by expecting that communicating about our expectations can make things happen easily than it’s delusional and unreasonable.

In friendship when things happen , like we listened to a friend's problems for years, even though it was very difficult, because we expect that our friend will also to the same for us ,when we wanted to talk about our problems. And when that doesn’t happen we break it down to a small expectations.

We expect other people around us to act in ways that are not in their interests, then they will probably resist our expectations, which leaves us resentful.

Well expectations and being optimistic is good but only when it involves us.Our expectations for achieving something should be only for us it should not involve others.

Also when things don't go our way, don't be upset or hurt.Be grateful for lessons.That lessons can make your life easier for future.

Smile please ☺