The root cause of "having too high of expectations" is typically subconscious suffering from the past that is being projected onto other people. Unconscious fears that cause you to judge others harshly are one example. This may manifest when you are dating and easily become turned off by everyone you go out with, or when you have a long list of requirements for people to meet. Another example is having high requirements for stability and comfort from others, which is sometimes caused by unfulfilled needs from abandonment, abuse, or neglect throughout childhood. Whatever form it takes, it usually works against us and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, which is unfortunate. A lot of damage may be done by this vicious cycle.

Possible warning signs that your expectations are unhealthyly too high include:

•    You have a difficult past that you might not have entirely dealt with.
•  More frequently than not, you find yourself feeling disappointed in others' conduct.
•   You experience severe disrespect.
•  You detest the majority of people.
•    You don't have a lot of empathy, especially for people who have harmed you or committed an act that you consider to be "wrong."
•  You are quite critical of other people.
•   You are really hard on yourself.
•    You are unable to calm yourself down or talk yourself out of your dread of being rejected, abandoned, or unaccepted.
•    Even if you specifically ask for something, you won't instantly feel comforted.
•  You struggle to feel joyful Or it's frequently fleeting. 
• Because you're a perfectionist, you expect others to be perfect.
•  You anticipate that everyone will act in accordance with your expectations.
•  You find it difficult to forgive. 
• Giving others the benefit of the doubt is difficult for you. 
• You frequently harbor hatred and resentment toward other people. 
• People should treat you the manner that you want to be treated. 
• You are a nitpicker who frequently struggles to let things go. You believe that the ideal partnership exists somewhere.
•  Never give yourself a break.

Possible signs that your expectations are reasonable and even healthy are: 

• You ask your spouse or friends to be open about themselves because you believe that intimacy in relationships is based on mutual sharing. 
• Likewise, you enjoy being questioned about yourself and want to feel comfortable sharing it.
•  When you're sad, you frequently turn to your spouse or friends for emotional support. This appears to be asking for their sincere presence and listening ear. 
• You ask for open communication from those closest to you, but you also forgive them when it's difficult and help them get through such times. 
• You don't require someone to "fix" or calm you; instead, you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
•  You anticipate that a mutually agreed-upon arrangement will be respected.
• You anticipate that a healthy personal boundary will be respected.
•    You hope that other people will share your unwavering trust.
• The people who are closest to you should always be there for you, but when they aren't, you should extend grace and make an effort to figure out why.
•  You pardon.
•   You treat people with kindness and compassion, even when they let you down.
• Although you are aware that relationships are not a game, you nonetheless have demands that respect your emotions. You are equally receptive to understanding other people's requirements.
•   You give it your best shot and expect others to do the same. (But again, you're flexible when they can't).
•    You practice self-love, compassion, and grace even when you aren't performing at your "best."