Everyone…
Everyone has the Audacity to Advice anyone whether younger or older in age.. Doesn't matter…
There is no limits in giving advice…
Earlier it was a very good decision to get an advice, but these days.
Advice is like carrying a sack full of stones all the time and throwing at anyone they find fit…
People never hesitates or pause for a moment to think before advicing someone…
Even if they are in the mental trauma..
Even if they are sad or happy..
Even if they are in their moment of weakness..
Even if they are in anger or frustration..
Even if the situation and advice are not related.
Even if they are in the end of world..
They don't think about it. They don't think about the “Feelings” part either.
In anyway, people with a sack of stones reach out to the already confused people's soul and give an ear full of nonsense which is no way useful in any of their life…
Our life is one or the other way is a mess, either “WE” invite them in to our life or we simply wait for the “MESS” to invite us.
We can live our life happy only with the measure of mess that created and how much impact they caused.
But, then all these stone carriers will never allow us to reduce that measure of impact we are struggling to keep shut.
The sense of satisfaction when you advice someone is heightened their Pride assuming they created a life path for us.
To be honest, we struggle more of discomfort when you advice us..
When I am down, try to help me up by your actions not by your words
When I am emotionally ill, don't give me lecture of your previous glorious life path, instead tell me and make me understand the possibilities to come out of mine.
When I am in rise of anger, don't judge me and stamp me in front of others as the bad one, Instead give me the space to overcome my anger.
When I share something which I feel very important, but for you its not, then please don't end the conversation by stating “ Its not a issue at all - don't react silly” and please don't say “I understand" when you are not.
Listen to us, Try to understand in the very least way, just for 5-6 seconds be in our shoes, Respect our emotions.
Do not come straight and hit the button with load of craps - unloading in to us and boast yourself that you helped.
No… That's not what we needed.
The cruel part is, our loved ones sometimes do the same which hurts more than any other person.
Also, to all the sack of stone keepers,
We are not desperate for advices, we are so so eager to hear your unrelated life history in between my mental trauma.
There are few souls who are the man of few words, they don't give hideous lectures.
They just sit next to us, hold our hands pass the positive vibes on their way by not saying out loud that “I'm there for you”.
That's all needed.
Every single soul is needed the other one to simply give this silent support and so that we can pass on to others when time comes.
“Try to be that better person”
Oops!! That's an advice again. Not needed ;p
-Yours Venu
