This is the first question asked when we worry about someone or feel that they are not feeling good or behaving different right? But before asking someone that you should consider somethings also.
Do you genuinely care what other person is going through?
Why they are behaving like this?
Before letting them answer put yourself in their shoes and try to answer yourself.And if you are really willing to listen them if they say they are not okay and why they are in this state, then only ask this.
Because you don't know what they are going through and if you just going to do a formality by asking them Are You Okay? then I feel DON'T. You can not feel their pain or understand them just giving them a one line sympathy and expect them to say yes even if you see they are not.
So if you are going to ask them this question I feel please don't make them hurry to answer.Let them take a little time. Be patient with them because you know they are not in their right mind. And after doing all these..please LISTEN what are they saying.Try to be a little more empathetic because they might need you to feel their pain but just wanted to lighten their heart by telling you. And during your conversation please don't get started about your worries and problems.I have literally experienced this, when I am telling a person something about me it's not because I want to relate it to you and not wanting similar experience advice from them. Just listen what they are actually trying to sayThat's because maybe they just want to be heard and let someone know what exactly is going on.Because you are the person who first asked them if they are Okay? And they are opening up to you expecting that you will listen and not expecting any kind of solution from you. Just by giving them their time to open up you never know if they feel better already or is in more stable mind before you asked.
So that was just my perspective that what i literally feel or expect when someone asks me if I am okay? This one mere question can make someone feel better just by hearing the words and seeing you concerned about them. So if you let someone expecting something from you please do it sincerely and just be there for them.
So next time if you ask someone If they are Okay? I really wish you genuinely mean it.
Have a good day and take care of yourself❤❤
