“If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive”
– Dale Carnegie
Dale Carnegie was one of the most successful writers. He has written various self-improvement books detailing interpersonal & public speaking skills.
Capturing 7 ways to make people like you from his famous book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People"
1.Do not complain or disagree - Do avoid direct confrontation of the mistakes of people. Most people do not like it. It's human nature to pick any complaint in denial mode. So, it is better to avoid contempt or complain. If you are really wanting to correct them, start first with their good points.
2. Honest Praise - Do sincere applause of people. Whether in professional or personal lives, sincerity always matters. As flattery is like licking boots, true appreciation of good points of a person always wins you a brownie. Every person has good and bad points. As a leader, you need to find their sincere traits & illuminate them.
3. Make people desire the same thing that you want – When every member of a team wants the same thing, the objective becomes more crystal clear. We first need to check what your team(or family) members truly want. Understand their point of view. Make them believe their desires & your wants are in the same flow. Then, they all would walk in the same direction by your influence.
4. Be genuinely interested in people’s talk – This is one of the most powerful ways to impress the most sought-after people in your networking phase. Most people love talking about their lives, their likes, and their dislikes. When you listen to people talk about their own interests & get genuinely involved, they would definitely like you. This way, you can make a mark on them.
5. Enthusiasm – A sincere smile, accepting body language is a good way to impress people. Ever heard that a smile is contagious, it will uplift any person from any mood. Welcome people with a smile & the rest will be taken care of. Good talks will start with positivity, which further leads to making good friends & networking.
6. Remember the names – Acknowledging your team members by their names is a good way to start with. Barack Obama knew most of his employees in the White House by their names. Calling someone by their name boosts their confidence & self-respect. They would make effort to do their best for you. So, if you have trouble remembering the names, it’s time to put in some effort.
7. Make the person feel special – Giving them genuine courtesies & applauding their sincere efforts make the people feel exceptional. Do learn to appreciate the good points of others. This will also fuel the approval mechanism of people who feel important. They will like you in return & make friends with you.
Final Words
By the onslaught of covid infection, there are many online businesses picking up. Online conversations & Phone calls are rising. We are making all our efforts to make our business pages on Facebook & Instagram look beautiful.
In addition to all these efforts, if you learn these above skills – it acts like icing on the cake.
These skills are useful not only in business but also in your relationships. Do try these techniques.
Ending with the beautiful lines by Charles Schwab,
If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise
