When we are young, we all want to grow up so that we get freedom that we wish for.

But besides freedom, age brings in a lot of other things for us. Rights come with duties and responsibilities. It is vital for adults to bring balance in everything they do so that harmony is maintained in the family.

Sometimes adults have to prioritize the needs of the members of the family and think about others. In this process, they tend to lose their own interests and choices. Ever noticed your parents saying “ we used to do this and that, but now there is no time”? Why this happens? It is so because children become most important for parents and they wish to fulfill all their desires while killing all their needs. 

You and your siblings must be arguing and fighting and heading to your parents for resolution. And when they take any one's side, the other one gets angry. Ever tried to step in their shoes and see how it feels when two people they love the most are fighting? Parents don't want to take any one's side. they just want peace and harmony in family. 

Sometimes when you don't get permission to go out with friends, you must have got angry and fought with parents. Did that ever happen? See, parents have seen the world more than you, and they have fears which you are not even aware of. They wish to keep you protected from the  evils outside the safe environment they have created for you. So, its your duty to make them comfortable and convince that you are aware of the rights and wrongs and will not fall prey to any wrong actions in peer pressure. Once they are convinced that you have the strength to avoid any sort of pressure with confidence, they will allow you trips and outings. 

Most teens feel that “ Are we grown-up or still kids?” because at times parents say- you are still young to do this, and most times they will say- you are grown up, you must know this? Do you also face this kind of situation? 

This is so because in the age you are in ( the teenage years), you are still growing. Some parts of brain are developed which make you feel that you are not a child any more. The physical and hormonal changes assure you of the same. Hence parents also have higher expectations from you in certain areas. But some parts of brain are still developing, which make you less reliable in terms of decision making. Hence parents fear that you make take an inappropriate step due to lack of knowledge and experience. While you may feel that parents do not understand, they feel the same too.

You may want the independence to do whatever you like, but parents know that any mishappening may spoil your life. You are still not ready to face any trauma and recover from any bad experience. Sometimes childhood fears and experiences have long term impact. 

Some parents may not be able to adapt themselves to the changing world. They may want to follow their conventional customs and traditions, and may be against modernization. Revolt is not an option for you. You have to strike a balance between modern and traditional thinking. You have to help them grasp the latest techniques with affection. They fear that you may misuse the freedom you will be given. A good communication with them will help you understand them and make them understand you. 

I hope you will find this article helpful. You may comment any other problem which teens face and I shall provide solutions on it in my blogs.