When you hear people saying these are testing times that line is not only limited to Covid but also for simultaneously happening situations. Effect of this pandemic is on various areas of life. be it economy, events, weddings, travel, career or relationships.
I wanna talk about how relationships have gone to depth due to this coronavirus leaded situation. Many people are stuck at their work cities or hometown and not able to meet their respective partners. Even if two people living in the same city are stuck at home. Pune, Delhi, Ahmedabad like cities witnessing this heartbreak situation.
Most relationships develop where people belong to the same office or college or gym or club.Virtually developed relationships are there but share is still low. So earlier couples used to spend a lot of time together, even if people who don't work or study together used to meet at cafes, parks, restaurants. Now that it's almost impossible to meet personally, couples feel devastated.
In this case, the only option remains in connecting over phone calls or on social media. Thanks to technology now people can be in touch regularly.Video calls help a person to see the face of loved ones. social media helps to chat and share common interest.but still you must have heard breakup stories, messed up relationship stories during last lockdown
so here is some to do and not to do for not leading towards break up while maintaining long distance relationship
Do not feel insecure: Most of the issues in love life happen due to insecurity in normal conditions too. so now when you are away there are huge chances of you or your partner feeling more insecure about each other or about the future of the relationship. and that's quite normal, its human behavior. So when you feel that way do not let that feeling grow much or when your partner does so or reacts weirdly do not get angry. Try to adapt behavior due to changed circumstances. tackle your emotions, doubt and don't feel paranoid if something you felt changed. Trust each other , talk regularly but on each other's suitable time. That's my second point.
Decide Suitable time for talk or VC : When you live at home, you can't freely take your phones and talk for hours without getting noticed. Girls especially get stuck in the kitchen or with family members. In many cases, where many people live in small houses, privacy is the biggest issue. so decide which time is suitable for both of you and then respects each other's concerns. Despite deciding time if a partner can not be on the phone try to accept that. change mode of communication. if not vc then call if not call then chat and if not even chat just ‘talk to u later, sorry, pls understand’ will also work. but do not break communication.
Talk about ‘YOU’ and not about yourself: This is a very common mistake that people do not realize for long. It is very usual to talk about yourself, your issues and surroundings. at some extend its fine just to check up on each other and be helpful but do not forget to talk about YOU as one. Do not forget to check up on partner' feeling due to your own problems or circumstances. Make sure you do conversation and not just be a listener or talker. Keep expressing Love.
Do not seek over attention nor get detached : it may be possible that you struggle to cope up with changes, about timings, about topics , insecurity, frustration, sometimes silence must be killing you but do not panic. Try to figure out other options to get engaged with a partner. like if he plays any game be online partner with him, or if she makes reels give her ideas or help her in spreading! Do not always seek attention, do not constantly call or chat. Give space and time to partners. Also its important to maintain touch, refreshing feelings so if things go little south do not get detached or depressed. Hold your emotions and behave with sensitivity.
In a long term relationship , keeping Trust and being engaged with your partner's life is important. I will suggest doing some virtual things of common interest. like webinars, games, group chats. That works. Most important thing in LDR is communication. As clear your communications will be as sorted your relationships will be.
