“parents are the children's first teachers” as the saying goes, children learn a lot from parents knowingly or unknowingly. parents effect their children's mental health more than they ever had expected. they might think just teaching them good things, and values with a talk would suffice to lay a path for their children. but children learn more from between the lines subconsciously, which remains imprinted in their brains throughout their life. Here are 5 thing that parents do knowingly or unknowingly, that make their kid worse.
parents or any other person in the family should never argue in front of children. Arguing is not the solution to the problem, but its hard not to argue when we were grown up like that.Arguments ultimately leads to winning of a single person implying the other one as bad obviously. this makes children think bad about the other or even maybe low. this may also leads to trauma, as their fragile heart can't stand the people he love dearly fighting. so send them to other room, if not other place if you want to discuss with your partner.
2.Bad mouthing about other people
we often talk behind someone's back about their life, work, relation and what not. but when we badmouth infront of children they think that bad mouthing is not that bad, they thinks it right. never in their life they would doubt whether it is bad, because it is something imprinted in their brains due to conditioning. when they grew up, even if others try to explain about it, they would be deaf ear. so never ever badmouth about other people in front of your kid or any other for that matter.
3.Force them to change
we need to understand one thing that all the 7 billion people around the earth were never same, and never will be. stop pressurizing your children to be someone, who he is not. accept him the way he is. he may not be the first in his class, but that doesn't mean he can't make a living in his life. let him enjoy the flavors of life. childhood is the foundation for anyone's life either it is their health or emotional intelligence. so let the life teach them rather than you force them to do.
4.Never speak bad about your partner
we all have disagreements. we all object others plan, idea at some point of our life. we all need someone to back us, to support our ideas, someone's approval. but never choose that someone to be your child. you choosing to disclose your opinions to them may lead to developing of bad intention on your partner. you may be back together within 2 or 3 days. but the effect of it on him would be for ever.
5. Avoiding birds and bees talk
we need to be rational and talk the ‘sex and relationship talk’ with them when they reach a age of understanding. avoiding the birds and bees talk would leads to develop in the misconceptions which may badly effect their life. it maybe sort of hard for us Indians, but we need to do it, before they create some false assumptions in their mind about other gender. teach them to love and respect the other person despite their gender.
