Nowadays relationships have altogether taken a different turn. The love which used to be the backbone of any relationship is missing. Instead it has been replaced by possessiveness, aggression, selfishness and what not. The husband or wife is so possessive of their partner that they don't even let them talk to other people. Possessiveness does happen in a relationship I agree with that. But the possessiveness should not become a burden for the other as well. Instead they should be able to welcome your possessiveness with a big smile on their face. Its possible only when your possessiveness doesn't go beyond the limits and doesn't reach the toxic level. 

When you enter into a relationship with another person it doesn't mean that the other person has lost his or her individuality. It also doesn't mean that he or she should take every decision only after asking you. It also doesn't mean that he or she has to leave all friends and family. But it's a frequent thought that, after marriage or so, the role of the person is only to love his or her partner and live according to his or her expectations. 

But by trying to keep your partner clinched to you, you are actually suffocating the person. After marriage the couple live and spend together and ofcourse they share their private space together. But does it mean that the partner should interfere in each and every matter of the other?? Ofcourse not. Sometimes we have to give a private space for the other person if they wish for one. 

Partnership is ofcourse sharing each and everything with each other. But sometimes even a partner will be bound from sharing some matter from the other. Like they won't be able to share something which they have promised not to. 

For a beautiful and happy relationship I think love, mutual respect and friendship is what matters.

Love wherein you love the other person so deeply that even his or her mistakes go unnoticed by you. If there is love, only then you can understand each other. And without mutual understanding the relationship is a big zero as well. But always take care not to turn this love into a toxic level wherein you start questioning the other for anything and everything and giving it the term ‘love’. Love is a feeling wherein you don't expect anything in return from the other. Even if the person forget to buy you something, you can easily forgive ofcourse after a little bit nok jhok thats common in any relationship.

When it comes to mutual respect you have to respect your partner's opinions. Ofcourse there comes situations wherein you don't agree to their viewpoints. Disagreeing doesn't mean to disrespect them also. You can obviously point out their mistakes but without hurting their integrity. There is a famous proverb “what you sow you reap”. Its the same here as well. When you give them love and respect they give it back to you as well.

And about the core thing which you need to build with your partner is friendship. Actually i think the core concept of any relationship is friendship. Only if there is friendship, only then loving, respecting etc are possible. Because in a friendship we often give the other person equal importance so there doesn't comes a feeling of superiority. The same is the case of partnership as well. Its the feeling of superiority, stubbornness etc which often destroy the married relationships. The divorce cases are shooting up nowadays due to this lack of friendship among partners. I think considering the partner as your friend could become as solution for any matter that prop up between the partners. Because when you see the other one as a friend you can understand their feelings and love them more intensively. Even the small fights that prop up between them could only intensify their love for each other. But if this friendship is lacking between them, the very same fight could result in a divorce as well.

So let's love our partners, respect them and see how beautiful it is..