People think that holding on to pain without grieving makes them stronger but the truth is, it breaks them from inside and makes them weaker emotionally as well as mentally. 

Pain doesn't let you move on. You keep on remembering the same thing again and again. You keep on thinking about what went wrong. Some of the most common things people do when they are in pain is overthinking, which tends to blame themselves for everything, trying to avoid close ones, staying alone, and stop socializing. Sometimes they overthink to such an extent that they try to end their life. They feel that they are a mistake in this world and a burden for others. Stop doing that ASAP

What people need to understand is they need to grieve and let the pain go. Remember “Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional”. Try to concentrate on the lesson that you learned instead of the pain. Stop regretting the decisions that caused you pain. Take that mistake as an experience. Instead of thinking about what happened in past, think about what you can do in present. 

Grieving losses is important. It allows you to free up energy that is bound to a person or object. It helps you to invest that energy elsewhere which might be more important for your future. Grieving might cause you emotional and physical pain but it brings us to a deeper understanding of the true value and meaning of life. 

Grieving is important. It honors the loved ones and the relationship between them. Grieving is a natural part of our life. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and deal with it. Until we grieve effectively we are likely to find revisiting difficult and a part of us would remain tied to our bitter past.

"Grieving is not forgetting"

Let the pain off. Don't think that not crying and always controlling tears makes you strong. Let it go, cry out at once and come out of the darkness. Talk to your close ones, share your pain with them, hug them and cry. If you aren't able to openly speak, try writing it down. Socialize yourself. Listen to motivational talks. If possible take a break from your normal routine life and go for a small trip somewhere, where you feel happy and find peace of mind. Listening to music might help you to cheer up your mood. Read novels that inspire you and autobiographies of people that motivate you in a positive way.  Avoid being alone, rather try speaking or be in the company of people who cheer your mood and uplifts your spirits.

Be optimistic. Tomorrow will be a better day. Believe in yourself. You will come out of all the pain and sufferings. It is not a 2 or 3-day process. It will definitely take some time, so have patience. Have faith in the process. Trust yourself that you will face everything strongly and come out of it. I know it's easy to say and give advice to someone to stop grieving. But only the person who is going through all the suffering knows the real pain and agony. But believe me, you will definitely come out of it and will be much more happier than before. Stay safe, stay strong, and don't forget to smile😊