Do you believe in the constitution of marriage? Well, most of us do. I personally don't believe in marriage or soulmates or happily ever after. I believe every relationship has its hardships and one should overcome them with love.

So, what is a happy marriage? Some may say that it is about adjusting with our significant other, taking care of the family, extending the family. But I think a happy marriage is one where we love and trust each other. What is marriage without love? A legal bond.

If a person genuinely loves someone they wouldn't need any legal bond to stay. They would stay irrespective of the difficulties. Why involve the government in such a pure relationship as love?

Earlier, marriage was an alliance and not love. We all know the history. Defeated Kings gave away their daughters to protect the kingdom. Or, they were married off to a better ruler just for the sake of power.

Back to the present day, we are still giving away our daughters to someone because of their status and labeling it as “Arranged marriage”. Arranged marriage is another ludicrous concept. I'll take about that later.

So, how is marriage a symbol of patriarchy?

Most people don't want daughters because eventually, they will have to marry. Yet these very people want a daughter-in-law. Many companies don't hire unmarried women because once they marry, either they'll have to leave their jobs or relocate. Have you seen any man with these issues? Probably NO.

Women are expected to marry, do household chores and take care of their husbands and children. They are not expected to be bread earners. I have seen men of the house sit and complain about how their wives torture them but haven't a single one of them being tortured. If the men in the family need something, the women are supposed to bring it. 

Instead of learning from their mother's struggle, the boys are taught that their mothers have superpowers. Later on, they want to see the same in their wives. This is what patriarchy is.

But are men solely to blame? No. Women are equally responsible for patriarchy. They are taught to endure all the hardships because that's what women are for. They pass on the same thing to their daughters. Women won't allow their sons to do household work, yet want their daughters to do the household chores and take care of their brothers. Apparently, men aren't as oriented and capable as women. Mothers won't allow their sons to help their wives. They want to pass down their sufferings to their daughter_in_law. Isn't this what gives rise to patriarchy?

I am not against marriage. I am against patriarchy. I refuse to marry to be a victim of patriarchy.