We often hear this sentence said by our elder people…. Marriages are made in heaven!! 

I just wonder sometimes how true this sentence is? Because it always leaves me under confusion be it a love marriage or arrange marriage. 

You can ask me what confusion it leads to…. So my point is if the marriages are made in heaven why does it fail. It has to be absolutel good as the pair is made by God, right? 

 1. Why the number of divorce cases are increasing day by day?

2. Why there are domestic violence cases filed in the court? 

3. Why women are committing suicide due to physical and mental torture?

4. Why women are being harrased for not having a baby boy?

5. Why there are dowry cases filed against men?

All these questions literally scares me if I personally think of getting married. No offense with others… it's just my thoughts. I have seen people having a happy marriage life and also a life where we never want to be in….

I once asked my mom that why there is such a difference when the process of getting married is same. She replied saying, My girl getting married might be the same with everyone but after marriage accepting each other as a husband and wife is very important. Just by tying knots it's not guaranteed that you will have a happy married life, it's within two individuals who has to decide that they are going to have a wonderful and memorable journey throughout the life. There might be a stage where you feel like giving upon and not trying to be a part of that journey, that is when you remember that it's just a bad day and not a bad life. You are lucky enough if you have that understanding and bondage between you and your partner from the beginning of the marriage. Sometimes it won't be there it may take time to build that trust and bondage so you have to just wait for that. 

Okay, I do understand that nothing happens instantly coz it's a life and not a coffee to expect it to be prepared instantly. I have one more question… In case of love marriage it's okay that the couple would have spent roo much of time with each other, they would know each other likes and dislikes and they will try to create that bond……. But what happens in arrange marriage? How can you expect to accept some stranger as a life partner just by giving a cup of coffee?…. That's what happens right most of the families still follow this tradition.. some random guy would come to see a girl, she would give a coffee to him and then based on the horoscope they would decide that they would be husband and wife… 

Like seriously, I do understand that it's a tradition and our culture but how can you expect the understanding and building a compatibility part from this tradition… Is there a way that a girl or boy gets to know each other before trying a knot or making promises to each other that they would stand with them forever no matter what while tying a knot…… No right!!

If everything goes well it's absolutely perfect… suppose if the girl and boy decides or gets to know that they are good as individuals but not as couples… What will be there next step? Obviously it would be getting separated….

In this 21st century, it's very rare where people are okay with accepting the molestation, harrasement either it be physical or mental. The first thought comes to their mind is getting separated. Everyone wants to be independent enough and expects to be respected by this society as a individual for what they are. 

I am not here to tell you all that love marriage/ arrange marriage is good or its bad…. Or who is right or wrong in a relationshi…..I am here to just find an answer to my question…. 

So why do they tell that marriages are made in heaven when it has so many faults in it? Why