Published Jun 7, 2021
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Everyday Sexism And Misogyny: Part I Slut-shaming

Published Jun 7, 2021
5 mins read
983 words

To begin with, the fact that I have to write about this- the prevailing sexism and misogyny in our society- in parts is so disappointing, and on top of that, IT. IS. 2021. PEOPLE.! Why on Earth does it still exist!
Yes, blind people with well-functioning eyes, IT. STILL. EXISTS.!

Okay! Let's start with slut-shaming.

Definitions: Because our school curriculum does not teach us important terms!

Sexism- Does it still exist? Yes!
Misogyny- Does it still exist? Yes!
Slut-Shaming- YES IT IS REAL

I hope we are clear about this now. Let's begin!
First off, repeat after me- 

A WOMAN DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MODEST IN ORDER TO BE RESPECTED!

Clear? If not, read it again!

Is slut-shaming wrong? YES! 
Why? Because it is a woman's CHOICE to wear a certain dress, heels, makeup, etc., to drink an eat what she wants and go places she wants to go. She is NOT doing it to “attract” men! She is doing that for herself! A woman's life DOES NOT revolve around men. The fact that women wear makeup under masks proves that they are only doing it for themselves.

STILL NOT ASKING FOR IT!


If a woman in a short dress gets assaulted/raped. IT IS NOT HER FAULT! STOP VICTIM-BLAMING! SHE IS NOT ASKING FOR IT! 
But she is still asked “What were you wearing?" by the police when she tries to file an FIR. 
No, sir! It does not matter what I was wearing, it is still not my fault!

This is from the “What were you wearing” exhibit at the Kansas University, America.
On the top-left, the girl was wearing a tank-top and pants. “Indecent”? I don't think so.
On the top-right, that's what a six-year-old was wearing, a sundress. “Indecent”? I don't think so.
On the bottom-left, an Army ACU and they were carrying a gun, “for preventing anything”
On the bottom-right, that kid was wearing a t-shirt and pants. Certainly not indecent!


ASSAULT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT!

MY BODY, MY CHOICES

If you are walking down the street without wearing a helmet, does it give me the right to smack your head with a hammer? Because hey, you are asking for it? Right!? 

So who is to blame? ASSAULTERS, RAPISTS, MEN!
Really how hard it is to NOT rape someone? 

If a girl, at the age of 11-12 can be taught about “good touch” and “bad touch”, how hard do you think it is to teach boys of the same age about respecting a girl's consent, and NOT RAPING? 

Really people, how hard is it?

Our society is so messed up! We focus on the wrong side of the problem EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. Thousands of women get raped every year and our society's approach to teaching women to “prevent” rape is WRONG.

  1. We are taught to wear “modest” and “less revealing" clothes in order to not “get raped”, as if our clothes speak louder than our “NO”. 
    People say, “If you put a steak in front of a lion how do you expect it not to eat it?” Well, people, steaks are meant to be eaten. WOMEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE RAPED! WE ARE NOT YOUR SEX OBJECTS!
DON'T MEASURE A WOMAN'S WORTH BY HER CLOTHES

    2. We are taught not to go to a bar and drink alone or not to leave our drinks unattended. Because the victims who go to the police to file an FIR are asked if they were drunk and are told that they shouldn't have been drunk. So we are being taught that we shouldn't put our guard down even for a moment because “Men will be men"!
        At the same time, if a rapist says that he was drunk and thus was not in his senses, HE IS EXCUSED! 

DON'T JUDGE! IT'S HER CHOICE

3. We are taught not to stay outside alone after dark and not to use a       taxi alone, and always pretend to be on a call when are alone and always carry pepper spays because “Men will be men”!

Because by teaching us to “prevent getting raped” you are saying, “Sorry honey we have got a lot of untamed wild animals around here and we can't put them in cages because * cough * they are superior, so it will be “safe” for you to cage yourself.

If you are teaching women to “prevent getting raped”, you are telling them “make sure he rapes the other girl” because there will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with fewer friends, walking in a darker part of town.
I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

If you are a woman, or a  “I'm quite aware of what's happening in the society I live in” man, you must have noticed that girls from a young age of 11-12 are asked to change into full-length lowers when their uncles/grandfather/cousins, etc. are about to arrive because “you shouldn't show your shoulders and legs", you are implying that these older men are pedophiles and won't feel “comfortable” if they see their niece/granddaughter/cousin in shorts and tank tops, then YOU SHOULD NOT INVITE SUCH PEOPLE TO YOUR HOME. “It's 45 degrees mom! I want to wear shorts!”

To all those women who were assaulted or raped, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT! No matter what the "society" says, IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT.
NEVER feel guilty about it.
And to the “society”, STOP VICTIM-BLAMING! Nothing an assault victim does/did justifies what happened to them!


Note: I am aware that men get raped and assaulted too, but this blog primarily focuses on women. I will write a different blog about that. 
Follow me for the upcoming parts of “Everyday Sexism and Misogyny”.

#Rape
#misogyny
#sexism
#slut-shaming
#victim-blaming
#assault
#not_asking_for_it
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gyanact 6/7/21, 12:04 PM
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Kirpya mere articles bhi padhe Aur mujhe bhi folow kre
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sumitsing 6/7/21, 12:05 PM
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Very nice blog 👏well written 👏👏 I Am A " LEVEL 1, SEEKER" .
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prabha_diaries 6/7/21, 12:47 PM
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I loved what you wrote...every girl can relate to it check on mine... I have written on similar topic
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pooja.grewal 6/7/21, 5:52 PM
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exemplary👏👍👌
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dharmendra.khandelwal 6/7/21, 11:01 PM
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Nice samriddhi... Your thoughts and views are appreciable ..Good article
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claire_browne 5/23/22, 6:38 PM
It's not always that you come across such talent as yours in this platform. The subject was superbly delivered, just sorry that I didn't come across this any soon. You've handled it with such elegance and sensitivity while lashing out raw emotions. Brava!

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