Yes, you read the title just right. Marriage is a 'riyality' that we were taught from early childhood where eventually each of us would get married one day. In childhood, it was fun to think about marriage and play Ghar Ghar. But now that I have grown up, it's not fun anymore, it feels more like ‘RIYALITY’ (which it is).
I am too scared of getting married. The fact that waking up in someone else's house creeps me out. How am I supposed to do it? I am sure there are many who feel the same as me. And growing up in a typical Indian Rajput household, as I am nearing ‘the right age’ of getting married, more things relating to it is coming up. Just like the other day, my uncle came, sat near me, and told me to start losing weight because I am nearing the marriageable age.
The things going on around me are terrifying but the fact that I will be in someone else's house is more creepy. How will suddenly my home will not be mine anymore? How my priorities will change? How will I obey everyone? What if he fails to love me as much as my father does? Will he get along with my tantrums as my mother does? Even if he does, am I ready for this humungous change?
I always dreamt of getting married in a most extravagant manner or let me put it as ‘big fat Indian wedding’. Wearing a high-end stylist lehenga, getting all dolled up, and imagine all the photos of that night, but when the night is over just imagine, I'll get a husband free! But thanks to covid it can't be big enough now. I dreamt of having those different functions before getting hitched where only I will be the center of attraction, but then, suddenly, ‘RIYALITY’ kicks in, what am I supposed to do the next day after getting married?!
Not just for girls, I am sure boys might also feel apprehensive about the huge change/addition in their lives. This institution of marriage tends to shake up individuals. It seems like one day you are happily dancing, putting Mehendi, and then boom! You have another person of your own. This might come up as a stupid article to some of you, but the idea of marriage really does creep me out and there are many more like me.
I know there are many people who feel the same way, do let me know your tips, tricks, or suggestions in the comments below.