This problem is Not Small actually it's a way bigger in India. If a marriage happens between a boy and girl its not happening between them, marriage is happening between two household or family of a boy and girl.
These type of films we have seen and grown up like ‘Hum Sath Sath Hai’. In reality this does not happen , In movie producers, directors can show anything.
It's a biggest Complication in India.How we can deal with this complication?
If one of your (Spouse) family member is not understanding or not agree with your decision. Now what he or she will do “Adjustment”.
Now the thing is How many times you will adjust yourself and at what extent?
If you are adjusting yourself the person in front of you is expecting more or less from you ?
Of course more.. and your image will become like this that you are very good that you are adjusting in every situation in front of your family members or relatives.
Now the whole world will try to adjust you for sake of there own. Now you will stuck at some point. Because there is a limit to adjust yourself. Likewise, If we will try to stretch rope more and more it will break at some time.
Now what you have to do at this situation?
If your priorities are set like in most important place in no.1, then no.2,3,4,5…. like it goes on.
For example: Some far relative came at your house and you are just fighting with your wife because of that relative in your house. Are you mad or what at that time? They have came for fun. They came here only so that they will get some masala news of your house and see what's going on between you?
So you must priorities. So don't fight or get mood off from the 1st person because of that 100th person staying at your home.
Now the 1st person will be your priority. He or she will be important for you in your life. Now to be on that relationship to last a lifetime, what are the conditions you don't want to compromise?
If a couple or spouse is residing, fight may happens its a part of our life but fight is happening because of third person or 100th person also because of that person you are ending your relationship that means you haven't priorities yourself.
Most of the people won't priorities themselves. They are fighting because of silly reasons and small things like You don't love me..
If you Priorities yourself. Your top 3 relationship you have maintain yourself. Don't meant me wrong Top 1 may be your wife, Top 2 may be your brother or sister like this. Further relations comes where you don't have to adjust yourself. Don't think like that he will understand. No he/she may not be. So tell them time to time or show them by your actions how much you love them.. by hugging, kissing in cheeks, be caring..
But this may not build up in proper one day. It will take time.
For example: A tree you have planted, you will give water, fertilizer, save from wind. In short you will care for that plant.
In a same way with humans also, This care is actually meant a love For the whole world. At last I will say
Caring is Love.
