In relationshps, orgasms play a significant part in bonding. Physical and emotional benefits like reduced risk of heart disease, improved self-esteem, and more can come from having sex. You can still have similar benefits without sex.
Why do we need to have sex?
Physical reasons: Pleasure, stress relief, exercise, sexual curiosity, or attraction to a person. Goal-based reasons: To make a baby, improve social status (for example, to become popular), or seek revenge. Emotional reasons: Love, commitment, or gratitude.
The majority of adult man under 60 think about sex at least once a day, report Only about one-quarter of women say they think about it that frequently. As men and women age, each fantasize less, but men still fantasize about twice as often.
"All women deserve to enjoy a health sex.
Studies have shown that sex is extremely beneficial to our health. Sex activates a variety of neurotransmitters that impact not only our brains but several other organs in our bodies.
The benefits of sex for women include:
Women, of course, have a variety of different lifestyles, situations, and preferences when it comes to sex. Fortunately, all women can experience benefits of sex, no matter their situation.
Tuning in to the moment can help a woman relax and enjoy herself sexually. Getty Images
The benefit extend beyond the bedroom. Studies have found that a roll in the hay can health careand even immunity. Many women have fluctuating sex drives, which may arise from larger issues, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a psychotherapist and sex n New York City. "In some ways, sexual desire is a barometer of your overall health," he explains. "If someone comes in with a low it can often be an indication that something else is going on emotionally or physically.”
So how can you break through these bedroom barriers and create more heat between the sheets? Read on to find out what women really need to feel happy and health in their sex lives.
Normal is whatever feels fulfilling for you and your partner, and communication plays a key role in making sure both parties feel fulfilled. That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week.
Sex is a important part of life, but sex is not everything.
A better understanding of the importance of sexual health to quality of life and global evaluations of sexual satisfaction in diverse populations is needed to help guide future research efforts, including the development of interventions to enhance patient-provider communication about sexual concerns associated with common conditions and their treatments.. To this end, this study sought to provide epidemiologic data on the importance of sexual health to quality of life and sexual satisfaction among a large sample of diverse US adults and to examine how each is associated with sex, age, race/ethnicity, and health
Is sex important in a relationship? It almost sounds like a trick question.
And a part of that includes quality sex. But how big a role sex plays in your love life depends on you and your partner.
“What we seem to know is that basically when sex is going well, which means you’re having it consistently, and not having any major problems, then it really only accounts for about 15 to 20 percent of relationship
And “consistently” is not a one size fits all model. It can mean very different things to different relationships. The most important part is that the two people in the relationship are on the same page about sex frequency.
When your sex life is off track, though, it can make up for most of your dissatisfaction with your partner, she adds. something that provides enormous benefits to your physical and emotional health, both individually and as a couple. But sex is way more than intercourse, say experts. So if that aspect of love-making isn’t happening as often as it used to, don’t despair.
When most heterosexual couples think of sex, they’re generally thinking about penis and vagina, says Megan Fleming, PhD, a clinical psychologist specializing in sex and relationships in New York City. “But the basics of sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure.”
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So sex is anything you and your partner do consensually that involves erotic and sexual touch and pleasure—and for most of us, that involves genital pleasure, Mintz explains. You give each other oral sex, for instance, or pleasure each other with vibrators or with your hands.
Redefining sex, so it’s broader than intercourse, can be more inclusive of gay and lesbian couples, says Mintz. And it may
Focusing on the mutual pleasure that may or may not include intercourse also can help couples get over performance anxiety, which saps away at your relationship, says Fleming. “If you’re not sure how something’s going to go, you’d rather not feel the disappointment or upset,” she notes. “So some people stop initiating. And that might
Now that you can think of sex more inclusively, it’s time to see how many perks it brings, both individually and as a couple.
It also keeps your heart healthy, even increasing your life expectancy after(at least for men), according to a study published in 2020 in The American Journal of Medicine. Other research in the Journal of Health and Social Behaviorfound , suggests a small study in the journal Psychological Reports.
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way that your brain looks right before orgasm is the same way your brain looks in deep meditation,” says Mintz.
Sex can also be an essential part of feeling alive and vital—of having a zest for life, says Fleming.
Another benefit to good sex? It’s validating, says New York City sex therapist Stephen Snyder, MD, you feel good about yourself in a way few other experiences can match.”
Mintz calls sex the glue and oil of a relationship. Without it, she says, couples either fall apart or become roommates who share chores, worries, and an occasional laugh. “In terms of the oil, sex helps prevent friction and makes you says. “I always joke with my clients who I’m trying to help get a better sex life that the things that irritate you about your partner before sex could even be endearing after sex.”
It can also release all those feel-good hormones, including oxytocin and dopamine, which increases feelings of connection and intimacy, says Fleming. Want to know what else increases
shared memories, because you’re sharing your deepest self with your partner, says Mintz. “It can enhance commitment and appreciation. And most interesting, the more sex you have, the more you want,” she adds. “So good sex is a positive cycle for not only more of those benefits, but for more sex.”
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According to research in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, you get all these feelings of emotional (more often is fine, you just don’t reap more perks).
If that amount seems like a lot, given your life right now, remember: “It’s really up to the couple to decide their ideal frequency,” says Mintz. When it comes up in her couples’ therapy, she tells her clients, “Whatever the two of you work out. I don’t care if it’s once a week or once a month.” But here’s the caveat: Both partners have to be satisfied with the amount, which requires
Fleming agrees. “If a couple isn’t having sex frequently—whether it’s once a month or once a year—and they’re not distressed by it, then it isn’t a problem,” she says. “It becomes problematic if it’s distressing to one and not to the other. Then it becomes a relationship issue.”
The bottom line: “There is no one-size-fits-all sexuality,” Mintz says. “If you have sex that’s really fun and orgasmic and connected once a month, you might be happier than the people who are having mediocre sex once a week.”
Many relationships have mismatched desire levels—typically, a higher-libido partner with a lower-libido one, say experts. And while you may think , notes Fleming. Here’s how to fix that imbalance so that you’re both left satisfied (yes, pun intended).
the issues you have to compromise on—from whose family to visit over the holidays to how to decorate your new place, says Mintz. “You listen to each other, you talk to each other non-defensively—you really hear what the other person wants and why it’s important to them,” she explains. “And you reach a conclusion, a unique couple compromise.”
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Sometimes bringing up the topic can be difficult, but not impossible. Mintz recommends using “I” statements, loving statements, and compliments so that your script looks something like this: “I have something to talk to you about, and it’s really hard for me. … I’m bringing this up to connect with you because I really love you. I really care about our relationship. And I am not feeling as satisfied as I could be with our sex life.” You list a couple of reasons why and then say, “And I’d really like us to work on that.”
figure it out with you, then you’ll have to think long and hard whether this is a deal-breaker—and go into therapy yourself.
“If you wanted your partner to do something and they said, ‘No, I don’t care to work on this even though it’s important to you,’ how does that feel?” Mintz says. “It’s not just about sex. It’s about love and partnership in general
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