In my last blog I had spoken  about emotional invalidation or emotional abuse the effect it has on us…

Continuing the conversation on the same lines today I would like to discuss how to handle emotional invalidation.

Before we speak about how to handle emotional abuse we need to understand the importance of accepting it is happening and not letting it become normal part of your relationship.

Constant emotional invalidation effects not only our feelings and thoughts but it also influences our self esteem.

You can avoid emotional invalidation by being assertive.It it's ok to tell someone that their words or conversation are not appreciative and appropriate.

 Most of the times people are unaware that they are invalidating or  being emotionally abusive.Being assertive does not mean being argumentative. It simply means that you are focusing on yourself.

Be aware of who invalidates you and set your boundries by re evaluating your relationship. You need to shift the focus on yourself from being focused on people around you.

 As generally people are unaware that they are being hurtful or are hurting themselves. So best way to process this is to do it together by talking it out and working at your own pace.

It is best to disengage if you feel your emotional safety is constantly being disregarded.Do what is right for you.

Be compassionate towards yourself.try to understand your own feelings rather than rely on what others have to say about you.you know what you feel all you need to do is acknowledge it.

Self care is anything ther important aspect of moving on as you take care of yourself and are mindful you will be able to accept your true feelings and not let others around you validate who you are.

Do not judge your self and change your own perception about things and situations.It is important that you give your self that space and try to understand what exactly is happening.

Do not hesitate to speak your mind and express how you feel open communication and sharing is the only way you will be able understand and be aware of something like this happening to you.

Do seek professional help If required because some times the hurt is so strong that we self victimise ourselves and unwillingly accept it as our own fault.

Unbiased, non judgmental and safe environment with professional help can give us perspective on ourself and at the same time help us accept and move on without feeling of guilt, anger or shame.

It's ok to focus on self and stand for what you feel your self worth is not determined by what others say or feel.