Mom's food for all of us has been the best. I mean who doesn't like 'maa ke haath ka khana'? Very few probably. I grew up with scrumptious food and nomatter what she made it tasted so good. There is something about it which brings peace and comfort. Infact I love what my friend's mom cook too. Ofcourse I am biased when it comes to my mom. It all comes down to cooking here. I never liked cooking infact didn't know how to cook before my marriage. Just did not have the patience nor the interest. I am a foodie but find it crazy to spend hours in kitchen just to finish the food in few minutes. 

Anyway so after marriage I quickly learnt how to cook. I cooked many things in a short span of time. But my husband never really appreciated it except for few occasions and always compared it with his mom. His mom cooks well but I don't understand why you need to compare and give constant examples. 

I soon lost interest in cooking. But kept at it with zero interest. After few years we appointed a cook when I got pregnant. Oh what a relief that was! Now he was welcome to criticize the cook which he mostly did haha. 

All was going smoothly but I felt bad that I didn't cook for my kid. I did few times but cook was doing the most part. I felt guilty. I mean how will my kid talk about her mom's food? How will she miss it when she grows up and moves away? I know it's crazy but aren't we mothers all the same. I didn't like that she was missing out on 'maa ke haath ka khana'. But I was just not keen on cooking now. Had lost all interest thanks to my then husband. The nick picking had made me lose it. 

Fast forward to the present. I am a single mom now. Nobody to criticize my cooking now. Mind you I do cook well. So many people have told me that but when your partner doesn't like it you do get demotivated big time. It took me a lot of get back to cooking. I was so so so unsure. Due to covid and no maids I started cooking again and guess what! my daughter as well as my mom love it. They appreciate me when I cook and that makes me want to cook again for them and try out new things. I feel appreciated, encouraged and loved. Your smallest of words can truly make or break someones confidence. After literally a lifetime I have started liking to cook especially for my kids. 

Moral of the whole thing is learn to appreciate what others do for you. Even when you want to point out the mistakes don't criticize. Say it gently. You never know how your words shape other's life and thoughts