Hey all, 

A few days back I saw a post wherein it was very rightly written that-

 ‘In India, there are SO MANY markers of a married woman… a ring, sindoor, mangal sutra, pazeeb, toe-rings… ALL these remind men that she belongs to another man, so off-limits.’

‘How about men wearing something prominently in public to signal to women that they aren’t going to act creepy and are safe to approach if needed?’

From the time I have read this post, I wasn’t able to get my mind to put it in a way that this post glorifies more and sends the message more clearly and precisely to more and more people. I loved the way the person stated this fact which although we all are well known with but haven’t thought about it this way. 

And I agree with the fact that yes most of the women are expected to wear all of these at least for some days after her marriage and on the other hand men are usually expected to wear their engagement ring which is not as visible or highlighted as the above-mentioned things are. 

Also, this reminds me of another thing that these small, little things matter a lot as after marriage even these count. In a man’s life there is not much that gets changed but in a woman’s life, everything from her home to her parents, from her name to relations, from her dressing style to her daily schedule, everything changes. Still, she accepts these changes without questioning or complaining and some even wait for these changes, though a small part of their hearts is always afraid, scared, frightened and intimidated by the fact that one day they have to go through these changes and nothing can be done. 

They are always told and prepared for these changes and a lot more than this is asked of her. She is bluntly told to change her habits, her way of smiling, greeting guests, be more adjusting, be more sacrificing and what not. After all these things still nobody sees her, the way or treats her the way she got treated by her mother, at her home. She is pointed out wrong somewhere or the other. She is not treated as an equal to the husband. And then people so easily say, what contribution or a sacrifice did a woman makes?

Thank you.