Many a times in our lives we find ourself ‘alone’. Now what does being alone actually implies cause for me it doesn't just mean, not surrounded by people.
Being different from every other human being we all can have different definitions of ‘being alone’. A few of mine are ‘not having people to have meal with’, ‘not have someone to share my success story with’, ‘not having someone to laugh at my stupid jokes on’, ‘not having someone to tell how much I want to cry’ and there are certainly few more I can't remember. We all have our times of loneliness, times when even being around people gives the feeling of absolute abandonment.
Why is that? Please ignore this question because this isn't a question. We don't need to explain to anyone why we feel the way we do.
Being a lazy cat I'm going to jump directly into the topic and talk to you about the stuff none of us should do when alone.
It's not always visible to others but some days we are super happy, positive and energetic, some days we experience insane amount of struggle within ourselves. Now I don't think anyone would've any problem with being happy and positive but for obvious reasons none of us want to be stressed, depressed spend time overthinking things not in our control.
I guess we all can agree that these moments, hours, days of self loath, struggle within, negative thoughts are inevitable, everyone have it, experience it. Some people more often than others. We can't just jump out of that hole, can we? It's not practically possible neither healthy.
When feeling low and depressed it's important to acknowledge the feelings we are going through. What kind of feeling is it? Is it the feeling of being stuck? Feeling of being shut down? Feeling of self loath? Feeling of being unloved? Feeling of lack? Or a feeling that can't be explained?
Thinking about future while having extreme of emotions can be either hopeful or hopeless but certainly ain't worthy. It's okay to think what we wish to do but not how and when. Not while feeling those overwhelming emotions then.
Don't dwell on anything other than present, infact don't dwell on anything at all. Just think about your feelings, what you are you experiencing right then. That's what matters cause you matter, your feelings matter.
Don't compare your life with others. This is something we seem to do a lot when not in a happy place. We compare our life with others and feel even more pitiful for ourself. None of us is stronger or weaker than another, we have a different life, raised differently, lived differently and variation of feelings is infinite.
Comparing the life of two people is like comparing grams and meters. Hence no comparison at all.
Do you know, everytime you feel you don't deserve this life is actually your message to yourself.
Have you seen infants learning to walk? Tries and fall, tries and fall but still tries. And when any adult picks them up in their arms to save them from falls, they struggle, struggle to get back on land and try again. That's how they learn. They know they don't deserve to waste any more of their life in safety of someone else's arms.
Self pity isn't a path to take while living, self love is. Change at this moment may seems close to impossible but you know what else was impossible? You being born.
Billions of people in the world, trillions of possibilities, one swap of cells and a totally different person with totally different personality, entirely different perspective would have born but, no. It was you and it was you for a reason.
Everyone is equally important, no second thought to that and since we are one of them, we are no less important than any of them.
