On September 29th, a discussion session on formal weddings was held. For some reason, an argument broke out. Many men and women were upset when they were forced to marry someone they did not love. However, more than 50% of marriages fail. That means that, although many couples enter into marriage in the name of love, the myth ends with divorce. If so many divorcee are married out of love and most are divorced, what happens? Is love enough?
For thousands of years, weddings were arranged. It is the latest trend in many people to choose their partners. With a planned wedding, you benefit your parents and grandparents who buy your spouse. They have been looking at certain families in harmony. They would take into account family values, circumstances of parents and children, socioeconomic status, financial management skills, assets, etc. At the very least, they will marry their offspring to someone of equal social and economic status. The best thing you can do is get married. To do so, children will need to be ready for marriage, to understand their role, and to raise the family name.
Today, you are alone. In addition, people are taught to be tough and independent. And the concept of compatibility has been replaced by love and romance. At the same time, women start 70% of divorces. Does that mean women don't care about love? Does that mean that women do not respect men? Or do men ignore the needs of women?
In gay society, 20% of marriages between men end in divorce. In the case of homosexual marriages, 45% end in divorce. It seems like women have a hard time getting along with anyone. In fact, complaints about same-sex marriages are similar to those of homosexuals. It seems that women are more likely to have unrealistic expectations of their partners or their opinions about how marriage works.
That being said, perhaps people are completely ready for marriage. Marriage is a solemn agreement that is binding on both parties. Its origins are closely linked to the protection of wealth for generations. It ensures that the couple's assets are protected and passed on to the offspring.
Instead of entering into marriage as a couple, many have fallen into the trap of Hollywood love. That means many wonderful, exciting and wonderful gifts. Frolic becomes a key asset structure. When happiness ends, so-called chemistry disappears. That is usually a method of separation. Or dishonesty instead. When pleasure and happiness are the most important, you find that the brain hides dopamine from the sources of pleasure. When a person no longer finds dopamine levels, they will seek it elsewhere. In fact, that is like marrying a drug addict. They cannot work without their height. Going to the gym is the best way to get your dopamine speed up.
In my talk show, we talked about how America came to this point of marital inactivity. For the most part, it began with a book written in 1819 by John Keats. The book is called, La Belle Dame sans Merci. It was one of the first love books. Initially the book had little effect on US culture. However, in the 1850's, women began to desire the romance they read in Keat's book. When you think about it, it may have been one of the most traumatic events in a marriage. That book shaped the way other love novels were written. And it deals with Hollywood romantic themes. People have forgotten the purpose of marriage. At one time, family relationships based on love were based on love and affection. Besides, over time, the couple will be able to grow closer to each other and to one another. Keat’s letter disrupted the old social structure and put society in the process of choosing a partner based on emotions.
Additionally, in the mid-1920's, the diamond company DeBeers developed a motto: diamonds are the girl's best friends. Before the age of 20, only wealthy men bought diamonds for their wives. After the DeBeers campaign, all the women were expecting diamonds. And they want a diamond bigger than their friend's or sister's.
Interestingly, the idea of a man placing a diamond on a woman's finger goes back to ancient Greece. The Greeks considered the gems to be spiritual gems. Diamonds are known as the hardest stone. Hence, it foreshadowed protection. When a man was away from home for a long time, he would put a diamond in his wife's finger to protect her from harm.
A third factor that has undermined marriage is the women's movement. They convince women that marriage is the institution where men dominate women entirely. The men forced the women to take his surname. He then influences the system of his beliefs and completely changes him. She also keeps him barefoot and pregnant. That mindset has women entering into marriage with a sense of self-defense and protection. The marriage will be dissolved before it is too late. Besides, even romantic marriages fail. So there is no mention of men. Now what is missing?
In the past, parents and grandparents were involved in choosing a mate. While there were compulsory arrangements, there were many marriages that were created with a strong interest in children at heart. Parents want the best for their children. They may simply want to see their child get better, instead of having an argument. From their experience, they can better understand what is going on with their child. That is not based on a child's personality. Based on values. When you include grandparents in the equation, it becomes easier to match your interest.
Consistency and values are clearly shown in the book, The Millionaire Mind, by Thomas Stanley. In his book, he lists many billions of couples he interviewed. He said they were getting a much smaller divorce than couples from lower economic levels. He said it was not money or the image that kept them together. He found that they were better at finding the right partner in terms of prices. In fact, most of the billions
