So, confused by the title?

Well I did think a lot about too, to name it. lol.

Are you in a relationship? looking for a partner? or happily single?

whatever be your status, efforts have to be the first chapter of it to score an A grade!

You can never deny!

Not a cliched boy girl relationship, be it any. Your relationship with your parents, friends or siblings, to keep the bond lively, efforts are the key!

Small, big does not matter. The other should be able to sense your efforts and feel that you are investing your efforts. 

Mutual efforts, consider you are in a relationship. So if the one who calls, texts and plans everything like an outing, hanging out so on, is only one and the always the same one, 

where are the mutual efforts? 

how can the bond be lively?

how long can the one be investing?

how long can the relationship last?

can you answer me these?

No, never. One can never attempt to answer these because, what else can the answer be?

No, mutual efforts, no lively bond and one cannot stand to invest all the time, the relationship without mutual efforts is a failure in itself.

So, now you know why is it a dilemma.

What can you possibly do?

Well, if you are the one who is trying to keep the bond alive, consider that you are trying because you want it and you wish to keep it lively and long-lasting. Give the credit to yourself, for that!

You try, because you want. The other is not because, they do not want. Simple.

Try this small trivia,

“why should I first?”

replace it with

“why should she/him be the first?”

keep your ego aside, there should not be a place for ego in a lively relationship. It is the effort that matters!

Try.

Now. if you are not noticed, tell yourself that “you tried because you wanted to and it did not seem to work out!”

Putting in efforts and the being noticed both come hand in hand.

Remember that you tried, and it was not mutual. How long will you try all alone? it's okay!
Sit back, convince yourself that it is not mutual, and you cannot force for mutuality, throw a smile and let it go!

Take credit that you tried and the other did not!

Respect yourself! Be grateful! Move on!

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