We live in a world where we have a million and more options to choose from. From big life-changing questions about careers to simple daily life questions, we have more options than necessary. And often we find it difficult to choose what we want. Even if we choose one from them, a feeling that we missed something better haunts us for the rest of our day and even in life. This is known as FOMO- Fear Of Missing Out.  

Freedom is not only about choosing what you want and deciding what you do with your life but also about taking responsibility for your choices and actions. When you finally gather the courage to choose what you want from all the options available in front of you and miss out on the rest, you are finally liberated from the indecision and composition to have it all. 

How to be decisive? 

Decisiveness is a multi-stage process. One of the most important reasons why we drag on making a decision is our fear of regret. Regret is one of the resentful feelings because it was once in your power to make a better decision, but you didn't and now that time has passed. How can we come out indecisiveness? How can we overcome the fears so that we can make better decisions? 

1. Understand your fears
   The first and the most important step to being more decisive is to know what your fears are. Self-introspection is the most effective way to analyse your fears. Ask yourself “WHY” until you find the root cause of your indecisiveness. 
    
2. Understand how they Manipulate you. 
   Once you have got a chance to know all your fears, go back to the past and find out how your fears made you do things and how they manipulated you and how you could have done better. Remember it is not a blaming game, it is just understanding the real reason for certain choices that you made in life. 
    
3. Choosing what you want. 
   Once your vision is cleared from the fog of fear, prioritizing your objectives to know what things are important to you will help you choose what you want. When you know what truly matters to you, you will be able to choose the best for you. 
    
4. Let the others go 
   After successfully doing the third step, this will not be scary. After all, we cannot have it all and when we have what we want, why carry the burden of wanting more?

FOMO is a real thing. On a minimum level, FOMO motivates you but if don't keep a check on it, it can lead you to serious life problems. Know your fears, understand them and make a way to overcome them. 

Reference: (Book) 

FOMO, Fear of Missing out. Practical decision making in a world of overwhelming choice by Patric J. McGinnis