Comparison is not a new concept, in fact, it played a very crucial part in various stages of human evolution as it was necessary to compare ourselves with the rest of the band members to adapt better to survive. But what happens when we over compare our worth with others? As the influence of social media in our day-to-day life increased by many folds in the past few decades, we often see ourselves wanting a life that we see on the feeds of these platforms and compare it with our current life.
When the comparison goes beyond a limit, it leads to a ‘Compare and despair trap’ in which you constantly assess your success and qualities with others and when you find they are far ahead, you feel worthless and desirous. The compare and despair syndrome can cause anxiety and even depression.
How do we identify compare and despair syndrome? Try answering the following questions to find out.
Now, if you answered yes to any one of these questions, probably, you may have compare and despair syndrome. Comparison as such is not a bad thing. But when you compare and seek validation from others consistently in every sphere of your life, it not only makes you feel despondent but also makes you dependent on someone else's life to feel good about your life.
What about all those “Why can't you be like him/her?” types of questions our parents and relatives asked while we grew up? Are they not comparisons? Yes, they are. They think it is the best possible way to motivate you. They don't mean any harm. As you are now in charge of your life, if you feel like the compare and despair trap is disrupting your self-improvement change your behaviour and come out of this trap.
Are you willing to take a decisive step to change your toxic behaviour?
With effective management of habits and simple alterations in the thought process, we can tackle this syndrome. To know more about the methods wait for my next blog.
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