So, as far as anyone who ‘Keeps up’ with the Kardashians knows ‘Kete’ broke up. That is, Kim Kardashian and Pete Davidson broke up. So, when I started seeing news of the breakup on meme pages on Insta,(Yeah, that’s where the Gen -Z’s get most of the News updates. Anybody who denies, stop lying!)almost all of them had one common similarity. Apparently, Pete was the one who fell hard and long, and was basically just ‘used’ by Kim, to get over Mr. Yeezy. And how, Pete ‘branded’ himself with Kim’s name, had her kid’s initials tatted as well, and still got ‘played’. Which got me thinking, is the popular narrative, ‘Boys fall harder as compared to girls, when it comes to love’, even true, and if it isn’t, isn’t it time we retire it and stop projecting women as these ‘heartless villains’ who are just out on a rampage, breaking the ‘tender’ hearts of boys?
Let’s look at this theory, from a neutral, unbiased angle, and compare. First stop, Cinema. 500 Days of Summer, yeah, yeah, we all felt Tom’s pain. But then, so do we have Lili Reinhart’s Chemical Hearts, and how she is not able to move on from her past. So, one for one. But yeah, as one might argue, the number of movies centering the general premise of the hero left heartbroken at the end of the movie is twice as many as their counterparts. Why is that so? Is it true girls are able to move on much faster as compared to boys? Or it that just something that the movies want us to believe? Or, maybe since most of the movies are just written from a male pov?
Now, since I started going down the rabbit hole, I did what most of us do at 3 AM. Take your mind out of the gutter, I meant research on Google. About absolutely vague and unrelated things, but which definitely seem important enough to sacrifice my sleep over(Or, that’s what I tell myself to justify my erratic sleep schedule.) So, anyways, coming back to our spicy debate, when I googled this question, I again saw quite a lot of articles stating that men are more vulnerable than they let on, they fall rarely, but truly, and blah blah. I just wanted to hear a female pov on the subject and well I did find one, and yes, it gave me just the satisfaction for me to go back to sleep.
So? Who wins? Boys vs Girls. Who moves on faster?
Well, the answer to this question is -Nobody. Different people, their different personalities, their childhood trauma, issues, upbringing, all contribute to the ‘Moving On’ factor. A boy who may have abandonment issues as child, may hesitate in forming romantic connections as adult, may shy off from commitment ,and seek more sexual connections as a way of coping. But does that mean, he ‘moved on’ faster? Nope. It might just be his way of masking his own personal insecurities and issues. Similarly, if a girl is with a guy, who is not really ready for commitment, and gaslights the girl every time she tries to address the situation between them. Is it wrong for the girl to take a stand for herself and eliminate herself from the scenario, and maybe be with someone who’s on the same page as her? But you how the situation here would be interpreted? The girl wasn’t loyal. She should have waited for the boy to become what she wanted for in a man. And how long would that take, you say? And is it really fair on the girl, to basically act like a ‘Preeti’ from Kabir Singh, and wait for her toxic partner to come to his senses after gallivanting all around, and then it be a ’Picture-Perfect Love story’. What BS! The only logical explanation again is, clarity of communication, if its ok for a boy to not commit due to whatever the circumstances, then so should it be for a girl, who is ready for commitment, doesn’t receive it, and seeks for it some place else. Its 2022, people. Let’s be fair.
So, in conclusion, Moving On is a process. A process that’s equal for boys as well as girls. The level and intensity may vary according to different situations, but it’s a process of healing. Let’s not mask our emotions, act tough and end up hurting more people in our path. Let’s heal instead on carrying on the cycle and passing it on.
