I am not sure but i guess you all know an underdog, a failure, a saddest and one thing that you don't know about that person that same person must be a depressed one and believe me somehow you intentionally or intentionally contributed in the process for that person, in most of the cases unintentionally. But if  the guy is self centred then congratulations for people who put him in that situation coz they are about to or already get success to achieve their goals.

 And if you want to raise one let me lead you for the steps that you should take and believe me it works 100%. So first thing first behave like you never wanted that person it was a total misfortune to you. Second, whenever he shares something to you tell him that he is completely wrong and prove him he is good for nothing. Third, Show love to other person in front of him and make him believe that nurturing kinda thing is not his cup of tea. Fourth never interere people if they discourage him, even try to support other people, this helps the person to doubt his ability to do something good. Fifth, if he tries to open up with you treat him like it is utter waste of time to be with him. Sixth, if he tries to do something on which he feels like he achieve something make him believe that it is not and tell him any body can do this. Seventh, if he choses to leave you and find his own path, create pushes him downward by taking people into confidence with whome he talks heart or feelings. Eight, when he about to attain an age where you cant force him to be an underdog put families expectations and  burden that he have to lead this.

My all concerns currently belong to 8th one, coz if you follow all seven steps sincerely then why to expect that he lead a life l, where he carries and fulfill everyone's expectations coz you left him with no quality, no skills, no dreams and most importantly left him with self doubt, he is blank completely from inside even he doesn't know how to react on feelings of others, coz you never show him one.

 I recently found out that why a child leave their parents on mean time when his parents need them most? Just because you teach him to do so. When he asks you for help you leave him with no choice. Indian parents are allergic to show love to their children they thought that it would spoil their child. And when he reaches the age of adulthood, parents suddenly expect from child to be their friend. I am unable to understand this toxic ideology, its like pissing on some one and expect to get fragrance, how?

 My name is Deep Narayan soni, thanks to read me, it take almost 7 years to open myself up in blogging platform and i still have fear that if any known person read and telling this to my parent. Coz Rather than stablishing parity with my situation they ask ask me questions that when they do this to me? And i was like everytime in my mind. But just because i am so called sanskari i chose to kept quiet and kept an extra guilt in me.

 I never decline that parents never do sacrifice but does it have worh coz if their child suffers then it is of no use.