Since I am a millenial, so I'll be talking about the people (including me) of my generation(haha! Obviously). Right from the childhood we all have done things that pleases our mind whether its playing in the doll house, playstations, mario or even crying over that one toy to be bought upon. As an Indian we grew up with alot of control and lack of privacy, but as everybody knows, we Indians are great at "jugaad" so similarly, we always tend to follow our own hearts one way or the other. We simp over some people, have crush on someone, have a great infatuation over someone ( which we call our first love, but actually its not). All an around 20s no one can say that they did every thing selflessly for others. If the pleasures that we all get around is not countable, that does not make it all selfless. The concept of self love is much more older than our instagram account. I have seen people loving themselves even when they are in relationships or even before hitting puberty. Dear girls, do you remember draping around your mom's chunni as a saree? This is too called self love. You might end up losing the things you did in your childhood but that's okay, it has nothing to do with your current relationships (bf/gf, friends, family). And their are several quotes and reels on the instagram that make you think that you relate to them but actually its all in your mind, your mind accepts alot of external things when you are sad or depressed because its easier for us to attract negativity than positivity. But being sad or depressed should never be a hindrance to your selfcare activities, do it as a routine or as a necessity 'cause in the end it will all be worth doing that. Go outside and play, take care of your skin (somebody told me that ageing starts with early and mid 20s) try your new lipsticks, go on a bike rides, play videogames. But everything has to be in control, set a reminder for yourself. Don't just work all day or even play all day. Its really essential to maintain a balance between everything, this is called self love. But keep in mind that there is a thin line difference between self love and selfish, make sure that your self love isn't way too much that it covers up all your time and you can't even make bare minimum efforts for your loved ones and end up creating a distance. Actually its most common these days that people get indulge in finding pleasures for themselves and end up forgetting about the people they have in their lives, who are actually concern and want to know the whereabouts. Love yourself but don't forget to keep loving your people. Thank you!