Today divorces are the most common fate of a conjugal relationship. Nobody is so much ready to take the pain of a marriage.
Marriage is ok, but nobody wants to take responsibility of that extra baggage that comes with marriage..!!
Anything that is beautiful and sacred will have its own baggage. You like it or not…You want to continue or not is your choice..!!
But lets find out why exactly marriage collapses so frequently today as compared to the previous generation…!!
Interdependence is no more existing
Previously most of the women were not so much into earning. They used to manage homes and children. So they had to depend on their husbands for money. So they were dependent on the husband financially and they had some respect for their husband for the hard work that the husband was doing for the family. Similarly the husband also respected his wife for controlling the family and children and they used to emotionally support each other. Their was a mutual complement for each other. Their was a need for both of them. So they never divorced. Today most of the women are working so they hardly depend on their husband and they don't like to show that respect anymore. Because they are at the same level. Husbands today, are also not bothered about respecting their wives anymore..
There are so many choices around
If there is a small fight between the husband and wife, both of them immediately seek for a substitute. They don't want to give them that pain of a relationship. They want to get relief and they get out of the relationship as soon as possible. There are so many choices around, so who likes to take the baggage of a husband or a wife…We want free and happy life. We don't want trouble so the best option is to get divorced.. That's what we think!!!
Own space
Now we want our space.. We want to enjoy ourselves first then with others. And if you get into my space there is trouble…!! When we get into a relationship we commit each other but if by chance anybody goes to inspect on the other…Trouble comes up…!!
Fast life style
We dont want to be slow in life..!! We dont want any patience in a relationship…ITS A FAST WORLD WE NEED TO TAKE FAST STEPS AND BE A WINNER, NOT A LOSER. If our partners are not up to our expectations, lets get divorced…thats what we think.
A husband or a wife may have some shortcomings. Who doesn't have?? But we want to be safe and change our partners and be winners. Who wants to be a loser?
Lots of expectation from the partner
A partner has to earn well, look food, be smart, should be socially active, should control children well and sop on..!!
Forgiveness is missing
We are not ready to forgive anymore…
We forget that we are humans..everybody commits mistakes…
No we cant forgive…!!
Multi relationship and dissatisfaction with the partner
Nowadays the couples do not understand what they want.They are never satisfied with their partner.
They find others more interesting…and get involved into multi relationships.
Over possessiveness
Possessiveness is also an issue these days..No body likes over possessiveness. So people want to get rid of that and get divorced..!!
No emotional support from each other
The couples these days do not want emotional support from each other because they dont want to show their weaknesses to each other.
They even do not support other if they need their support..
It's really becoming to tough these days…!!
Boring relationship
Today divorces takes place also because there is nothing new or a relationship is becoming boring to the eyes of the couple. Now this was the not the case before in our grandparents time. No matter how much uninteresting the partners would become, they would definitely not divorce each other. They fought and complained and then slept together. The next day, all forgotten…
But today the problem is our minds are too sharp, we don't forget anything…and for million years we blame each other, even after having divorced…😁😁
