"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you."

                                                                                                   -Lewis B. Smedes

All of us has read or heard these lines that we should forgive people so that we can forgive ourselves eventually. But my question is “Is it really easy to forgive someone?”  I guess not. When someone breaks you to your core of the heart. When your brain was constantly reminding you that this guy is not right for you but you were so blindfolded by your own emotions that you can't even see it. When all you want is to slap that person so hard that all of your anger gets justice. I have been through many such experiences and I am sure you would have too at least once in your life. Because no matter how much you try to be good and kind with them they just don't deserve you. Let's say after so much effort you were finally able to forgive yourselves but can you still forgive them?

 Sometimes I think its easy to say things than to do it. I have also heard that be resilient so that you will not be worried about what other people do, you will focus on yourselves. Easily said than done right! I mean how can anyone be resilient if people just be mean without reason and break our trust. This so called other people's thing disturb our peace of mind and it takes so much time to get back on track. 

Forget and forgive is the most common quote you have heard. Like what we are 2 yrs old or something! how can we forget something that did hurt us so bad that we literally cried ourselves to sleep. It's like you doing everything and somewhere in back of your head that scenario is playing in a loop. How can I do this? why the hell I have trusted him? how can I be this stupid? why he did this to me? these are only some of the questions that we constantly ask ourselves. All you did was being kind, loyal and supportive and in return you got tears. Now people say why did you have expectations. Oh I am sorry people but I was not expecting him to do anything good for me and I was also not expecting him to do anything bad to me. There is a huge difference between this.

So the point is we can't forgive everyone who hurt us they just don't deserve our forgiveness. We have to live we this reminding ourselves to be careful next time.