I never really understood the importance of self love. I infact struggled with it a lot. I remember people telling me all the time to love yourself and then you will be happy, but no one really told me how? I was just under the impression that I had to wake up one morning and decide to love myself. But no, the idea of self love doesn't work this easy. Its definitely a long journey, not just an epiphany. Its the journey you will cherish forever and the time you invested in it will all be worth it.

NOSTALAGIA HITS *

I know myself how difficult it was to start this journey. I looked up the ceiling staring at the walls regretting about my past decisions, dealing with lot of shame. It all just spiked in my mind and altogether all these feelings came and knocked on my door. Incidents that I promised myself I would never ever think of, came along. I was constantly putting myself down and making myself feel stupid and guilty for the mistakes I had done in my past. So restless, so disappointed, so lonely that I couldn't help but think of the wrongs I did to people. The emotions were so intense that I felt its the end of the world now, but I guess we all go through this once in our life.

Only when i realize that we all make mistakes and its okay for it to happen. Mistakes are meant to happen and its the only way life teaches us to live. 

SO ITSOKAY TO MAKE MISTAKES BUT LETTING GO OF THE PAST IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO MOVE ON IN YOUR LIFE.

The first step to this journey starts from forgiving yourself for everything. We all make mistakes and its good to acknowledge it and grow up. Its a part of living, that's how you heal. You need to stop all the negative thoughts from coming in and disturbing your mental peace. You need to understand that you are a total different person now and should not punish/torture for yourself for the things you have done in your past. ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY. We don't hurt people intentionally. You need to bring forgiveness in your life without the validation of others. I now forgive myself for hurting anybody or for any of my past mistakes even though the person hasn't forgiven me yet. Because its fine. Its absolutely fine.

The second step is dating yourself and its so fun. We love others, our beloved ones special but we often forget to treat ourselves the same way we treat them. You just need to love yourself the way you love them, take yourself on a date, get some treats for the sweets (You). Get to know your best bits and accept your flaws. Invest time in yourself and your personal development. Not many people are aware that this is an awesome escape from the chaos of your daily life. Just go on a actual date by yourself and put your phone in your pocket and just live. Live the moment, watch the world go by. When you are with your thoughts alone, you know a little more about yourself. Discover your passion, hobbies, goods and bads, and like I said before know every bit of yourself. Know your strengths and build them more, work on your weaknesses if possible too. Again, this might feel weird at start but its okay. This is the way to flaunt your flawsome.

The last but not the least is to be patient. Trust the process baby. All this will not happen in fraction of secs. It takes times, sometimes days, weeks, months. But remember to not give up on yourself and work hard for your goal. don't let any distraction come in between. And also remember we all have days where we wake up feeling shitty and its okay just get yourself a coffee or chai and boost up yourself to get through this day and if not then take a day in bed, there's no harm. We all need a break