Orgasms: How they work?..can women have orgasms? Are they same for both sexes or different? misconceptions.

What is an orgasm?

It is the feeling one has at the peak of sexual excitement or pleasure. The intense feeling or the feeling of release accompanied by ejaculation ..

Both men and women experience orgasms . However until recently it was known and considered normal that woman can't experience orgasms..

Orgasms work same for both men and women…

There's 4 stages of an orgasm:

1. Excitement
2. Plateau 
3. Orgasm 
4. Resolution.   

The female orgasm 

  1. Excitement: 

It is when a woman is stimulated physically or psychologically. There is an increase in the blood flow to the vulva causing it to swell ,glands near the vaginal wall secret lubricating fluid , there is an increase in heart rate , blood pressure and breathing.

2. Plateau:

It is the phase that lasts until the brink of orgasm ..

3. Orgasm:

It is the intense feeling of pleasure or release.. due to contractions of muscles.

In women It lasts longer as compared to men …with an average of 13 -51 seconds. In women orgasms are not necessarily accompanied by ejaculation.

4. Resolution:

It is the Rest phase during which the person can't experience another orgasm.

Though some women do not have a resolution period thus they can have further orgasms giving rise to the concept of multiple orgasms ( lucky peeps😭).

The male orgasm:

1.Excitement :

It is when a man is stimulated physically or psychologically , which causes erection . Blood flow to the penis increases causing it to grow in size and become rigid .

2. Plateau:

Blood pressure & breathing increase.. muscles of thigh and buttocks tense up.

3. Orgasm: 

Contractions in the pelvic floor muscles leads to ejaculation of semen( 5% sperm & 95% fluid). It lasts for about 10- 30 seconds. 

4. Resolution:

Men have a longer refractory period as compared to women ..the duration varies from person to person and can last from a few minutes to days.

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• Orgasms have multiple health benefits giving a person feelings of relaxation & pleasure due to the secretion of so called “happy hormones” .
• Orgasms don't occur from sexual stimulation only
• There's a scenario known as ‘wet dreams' - where one has orgasms while sleeping ..it is absolutely normal and not a problem.
• There's people known who can have orgasms just by thinking about it ..( i know..who are those Lucky people 😭)..

~ there are multiple disorders related to orgasms in all genders.

In women there's a condition known as ‘Anorgasmia’ - the inability to have an orgasm .

In men most commonly known condition is ‘premature ejaculation’ - where a man ejaculates within one minute of penetration.

Misconceptions: 

• Most people think of orgasm as the only goal of sexual encounter.
• Orgasm are not as simple or common - studies show that 10- 15 % of women have never experienced an orgasm
• Penetration is the only way for both men and women to have an orgasm , which might be true for most men and some women but more women experience orgasms through clitoral stimulation
• Transgender people can't have orgasms .. which is not the case..they do have orgasms and better one's after sex transformation.

 ~the journey to having an orgasm is different for each person .. there's no reason to compare your experiences with others.. and orgasms are not the sole purpose of sexual intercourse ,rather people enjoy the feeling of being connected to someone.

Thanks for reading!