“DISAPPOINTMENT IS ONLY FOR THOSE WHO EXPECT TOO MUCH”

          We human beings expect too much from others and from ourselves as well. When we were kids we expected our parents to be a bit more lenient and friendly towards us, at the same time our parents too had expectations on us to be more obedient, focused on our studies. 

As we grew, our expectations also grew on our siblings to be more cooperative, to be a crime partner, at least we expected them not to tell about us to our parents.

But, in both the above cases, with our parents and siblings the expectations didn't hurt too much The probable reason is that we didn't concentrated much on them or we had many other things to keep us diverted.

Once we hit a certain age we get attached to someone, may be a close friend, spouse, kids, relatives.

 Especially in the case of life partner and kids we keep high expectations which they have to meet otherwise we will get disappointed and in turn we will start to show that frustration on them which makes them feel that we don't love them anymore, even if we do.

First thing you can do is keep your expectations low which they will match and at the end you'll be satisfied and not disappointed.

They may or must have tried to their fullest to meet the expectations, but we don't see the efforts they put in we are just too concentrated on the results. To that matter even that opposite person will also be in the same position of disappointment when we don't match their expectations. Even they are not bothered to see our efforts , everyone is result oriented.

Higher the expectation level higher the level of disappointment. Why does this happen and what can we do about that? In the first place we don't try to understand the person and the expectations we have may be a lot more to them or not even in their capacity to meet the expectations. And the most important thing is that we don't think and understand from their shoes. What would they react or do in this particular situations, what are the difficulties they may face.

After a few incidents we may feel that we are the only one understanding and the other person keep on blaming us for the disappointment. A question may arise in your mind asking WHY ME ALWAYS?

It's not that, always you should only understand the person and their situation. You should make them understand your situation at the same time so that you both stay on the same scale.

"DON'T BE SURPRISED WHEN WHAT YOU EXPECT US TO DO ISN'T WHAT WE ACTUALLY DO. YOUR EXPECTATION OF MY EXISTENCE WON'T DICTATE WHO I BECOME."