The refusion method

The title may look like too broad.  Let me explain.  By refusing means saying no to someone or something that you dont probably want in your life.  Something you doesn't probably use or something that doesn't help you in the long way.  

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You just only have  to do this for once in a week.

This may look like not something to practice on. Because we all believes that  we are consistent with our life,  we only does what we want etc.  Let me tell you this is almostly clear in the case of everyone.  If we analyse our own life for a period, we will notice that we says no very rarely.  Mostly in india.

This is because number one we are not active at the present. We may be thinking about something and someone tells us to do a certain job. Most of the time if our focus were dispersed, as everyone's are due to the over use of internet we never really cares and our mind will go directly to alert mode because we weren't focusing on the situation.  We were not actually there. Therefore our mind will do whatever the other person is saying irrespective of the content as a defense mechanism.

This thing happens a lot during wedding's.  As i don't have a lot of memory about that  but i have met people who are literally just doing things subconsciously, they  are not at the place.  Their mind is on pubg,  movies or some external distraction.  

And the other reason is we dont wanna say no because we dont want to make the other person sad or mad.  Thats not only good for you but also will affect how someone else sees you.  

Refusing to accept or just practicing to say no or being negative for at least once a week, you are actually building up the will power to say no fearlessly  in the looong run. 

Also you are creating an environment where the people around you know that you are not someone who says yes to everything. Thst you have your own stand point. Mostly you have your own Character

You are not anyone's. servant.  You dont have to obey someone you dont want in your life or a thing you dont want to do.  Im only saying to try it once a week because this issue is far deep than you think.  You will observe the restriction building up when you try to say it.  But, as every habit, it only ends for the first time as you progress more you'll become more and more how to say this, constructual at your life.  

Summary :- refuse doing something or speaking something  or accepting something  once every week.