Hello guys welcome back to my another intresting blog, tomorrow was my class test so now i am telling  few things about my chapter related(How to win) by shiv khera.. 

What is self-esteem

  Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. When we feel good within, our performance goes up, our relationship improve both at home and the work. The world looks nicer. What is the reason? There is direct correlation between feeling and behaviour.

How do we build positive self-esteem

   If you want to build positive self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest way is to do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind. 

       A few years ago I started volunteering my time to teach attitude and self-esteem programmes to jail inmates. In just a few weeks, i learned more than i had learned in years. After attending my programme for two weeks, one of the inmates stopped me and said, “shiv, i want to talk to you. I'm going to be released from prison in a couple of weeks. ” I asked him what he learned through the attitude development programme. He thought for a while and then said that he felt good about himself. I said, “good doesn't tell me anything. Tell me specifically what behaviour has changed? ” I belive that learning has not taken place unless behaviour changes. He told me he read bible every day since I started the programme. I then asked him what reading the Bible did to him. He replied that he felt comfortable with himself and others which he didn't felt before i said, “That is nice, but the bottom line is, what are you going to do when you leave jail? ” He told me he was going to try to be a contributing member of the society. Then i asked him the same question again and he gave me the same answer. For the third time, i asked him the same question, “what are you going to do when you leave jail? ” Obviously, i was looking for a different answer. At this point, in an angry tone, he said “i am going to be contributing member of the society. ” I pointed out to him that there was a world of difference in what he said then, and what he said now. Earlier he had said, “i am going to try to be” And now he said “i am going to be. ” The difference is the word “try.” He got rid of the word trying and that made sense. Either we do it or we don't. The word “trying” Keeps the door open for him to come back to jail. 

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